What do you think you need in order to be happy?
 
What will make you happy in your life the million dollar question are you happy now is it a frame of mind something you think about or is it how you live and where? Too many questions and not enough answers if you ask me because in a week I can be traumatized, miserable, or elated with my life it all depends on how I’m dealing with the everyday details of living. Therefore the best we can hope for are some good times during our otherwise busy years and if that’s the case making the best of those periods is something you really have to focus on  thus while struggling to meet all your obligations and commitments it’s important to make sure you do some things just for you. I find myself doing a few things each day which got me wondering what you might need to be happier and here are some of my tips and thoughts.
 
Making the best out of your weeks:
 
Purchase a small tablet which you can carry around with you I have the Mead memo pad which is tiny enough for your purse or pocket.
 
Every time you think of something you’d like to do write it down in the memo book especially if it’s a restaurant or place to go often when you have the chance to do something you forgot where you wanted to visit therefore you check your book and there it is the answer this works.
 
Take time every day to consider what makes you laugh or smile perhaps it’s a walk somewhere where you can enjoy Mother Nature a stroll in the shopping mall or movie going to a theatre alone can be fun you get to pick exactly what you want with no consideration for anyone but guess who……U.
 
Learn how to relax and let go of the problems and things you can’t change for the moment allowing you to be free of stress and recharge clear you mind for that short period and pretend the problem been solved. There’ll be plenty of time to refocus after your recharge maybe you even came up with a solution after refreshing you mind.
 
Visit a friend and bring something to them coffee candy flowers and watch them light up and guess what it’ll do the same for you.
 
Try thinking out side the normal day pick one small thing to do just for you and don’t let anything stop you from doing it the difference in your attitude and the new energy will surprise you giving you a different and better outlook on life
 
Start today by making your list and carry it around with you the worst that’ll happen to that book is you’ll use it as a to do list and that’ll work as well. Hence dare to be happy and live more life  it’ll make you nicer to be around it’s the only chance you’ll get and remember there are no reruns only memories with those we leave behind isn’t Michael Jackson the best example of this being true.

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I couldn’t believe my eyes as I looked out my back porch (attached to my living room) and watched this dear so close I could hear him breathing.  I was able to snap these photos and thought you’d enjoy the beauty of mother nature.










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Guest Post From Robin Easton

Robin Easton is my star because she is following her dream and living the life she desired not the cards that are often dealt to you, there is much to be learned from her as she took the leap of faith and began doing what her heart and soul beckoned her to do.  I love reading her posts they are filled with wisdom and experience and today she explains how to learn to forgive instead of harboring hate and all the pain which will consume you.  Please take a moment to read this post and view her wonderful photos then click back to her site and make it a regular stop as you tour the blogosphere.  We have so much to share with each other as bloggers and here’s a lady I’d love to meet someday and just look into her eyes and tell all that’s in my heart.  Let us know what you think and leave her some comments she’ll respond.



A look at forgiveness in the face of hate:

1. When I feel hate from someone else, which almost never happens, I say to myself, "Although I’m not responsible for another’s choice to hate, is there anything real I might have done that I need to take responsibility for?”

2. Then I choose to look at the situation on a soul or psychic level. I like to distinguish what might be someone else’s feelings and what are mine. I can all too often and too easily feel another person’s feelings. So I like to separate their feelings from mine. It allows me to more clearly see the situation and let go.

3. I’ve always seen hate as a secondary emotion, the original or base emotion being fear. I’ve experienced life as two fundamental emotions: fear and love…with various off shoots from these two emotions. In many cases if we can get to the base emotion we can more readily understand what’s really happening.

4. I’ve learned to not carry someone else's emotions out of my own past conditioning. Example: If someone hates me (or is angry with me) and I take on that hate by feeling hurt or bad about myself -- as if I deserve to be hated -- I confirm several things for this person: A. That it's okay to hate. B. That what they are doing is working and okay to do with me. C. That they are a bad person. When someone treats us poorly and we respond with either hurt or anger, in their mind it often equates to, “See? I’ve hurt someone again, so I really must be a bad person.” I don't think anyone really wants to hate. It hurts to hate another person.

5. I’ve learned that I can set solid boundaries; I don't have to stay in the presence of someone who’s sending out hate. It’s not good for my spirit and soul. Likewise I’ve also learned to model love in the face of hate. If I feel love toward myself then I won’t identify with someone's hate. I see that I am worthy of love, even with my failings and mistakes.

6. I try to meet anger or hate with real love, given freely, no returns expected. I go into myself and find the soul of that person who’s hurting or frightened and I tell them they’re safe and loved, and not just by me but by Life. I’ve seen amazing results doing this, even over great distance. I forgive them and myself. I forgive even while they are in a state of hate, because they are in a state of hate, because they are part of me and I am part of them. In forgiving them I forgive myself.

7. I’ve learned that in many cases people do change. People do heal. People do learn to love. Meeting hate with love and forgiveness can change (save) lives. It may take time, but no love, no forgiveness is ever wasted.

8. When we forgive someone else we’re really forgiving ourselves, every time. It’s easier to forgive if we can look at forgiveness as a gift we give ourselves as opposed to something we do for someone else or something we have to do.

9. As children we were often forced by our parents to forgive other people, even when we didn’t feel sorry, even when we did nothing inappropriate. We learn to see forgiveness as a loss of self, something we have to give someone else instead of something we give ourselves. Forgiveness sets us free and on it's deepest level is really about self not "other".

10. There are many in the world who’ve been crushed by heinous acts of hate. These souls may never be able to forgive or even find peace. Some haven’t seen kindness in so long they know the world only as cruel. But for many of us there is so much we can forgive. We must do it for those who are unable to forgive. We must do it for ourselves. We must forgive with no expectations in return, do it because we want an end to war, do it because no one else may do it…ever. Forgive simply because we like who we are and how we feel when we forgive. Forgive because it fills our world with hope; another drop of love falls into The Great Ocean of Peace. Will you take the first step with those in your life?

"Given the chance our love is like the gnarled and twisted tree. Exposed to the elements of wind and rain, it will hold fast to become a thing of beauty, a timeless work of art."      ~ Robin Easton

Much Love,
Robin

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Memories

I found a book my husband had given to me entitled Grandma Do You Remember When by Jim Daly and by looking through the pages I started thinking of my grandmother and how wonderful my times were with her.  She was from Poland could not speak English and yet our communication was wonderful and every time I was able to go with my mom to her house I did.   I remember like it was yesterday the beautiful plants and doilies in her living and dining room and in the small front door entryway she kept her old sewing machine it was one of the old pedal machines and my gram made skirts and aprons which I loved and only wish I had kept in her memory.  Long ago we didn’t think about saving things from the past and when I think about gram how I wish I had one thing from her to recall the smells and treasures of her life.  Therefore I’m suggesting moms and grams get together with their children and grandchildren and make a list of items they want their families to have when gram is no longer around.  It’s a grim thought of course however if there is more then one sibling it will be easier if each child knows what gram wanted them to have as a memory of their time together.  

 

My daughter and my grandchildren always tell me what they love in our home and Joe and I have decided to make a list and keep it with our important papers. Its fun knowing what each child wants as they all seem to have different ideas and if we had to guess I suspect we’d never come close to some of the things they’ve asked for.  In addition to your possessions I suggest you begin a book of answers to questions relating to your grandparents history because once your family is gone there is no way you can recapture the past unless it’s already been written somewhere.  Yes you can construct a family tree however there are personal things which are nice to know and no one thinks about until it’s too late. Therefore here are some questions you might want to consider to make you grandparents book (similar to a baby book) only grandparents history for your children and once the new site is up (next week) one of our first contest will be to submit an older picture of a grandparent along with a memory you’d like to share with us.

 

So here go some questions to consider:

 

Grandma’s birthday

Where was she born?

How did mom and dad pick her name did it have a meaning or story behind it?

Who was president when she was born (I don’t know for me I have to check) dah..

Give a brief summary of what was going on when gram was born.

 

On a personal note:

 

What was your grams favorite food?

What did she like to do most?

Who was her favorite grandchild (just kidding)

What did do for a living?

Did she travel and if so what was her favorite place to visit?

 

You get the idea so start thinking and purchase that book we’ll have one for sale soon with some of the photo’s you submit because we know life is fleeting and these moments are temporary and in the end all we have is our memories of time we’ve spent with those we love.  My dear friend David who has become part of this site was taken back when I called him tonight and asked to find me a photo for this post because as we started talking he told me this article reminded him of his mom who died  in 2006  so I dedicate this post to  Lynda Harris  in her memory because un-be-known to me she had done many of the things I just wrote about and her children (all 7 of  them)  are happy she thought about what they might want if she wasn’t here.  So please give this some thought you won’t regret it.

 

  

In Memory

Of

Lynda Harris

1938 - 2006


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Father Day 101
 
Today was Fathers Day and hopefully any child who could called visited or sent a card to dad to tell them how much they love them or what they meant in their lives. There aren’t many holidays that are important and this day is one to set aside and remember because our dads are the staple of our lives. They set our values and habits along with mom they work as a team and can leave you with great memories and times you’ll relive as you grow up and become a parent and hopefully share with your children continuing the great traditions your family knew and loved. My parents have passed and I often wish I’d taken more time to say the loving things we often are too busy to make time for along with sending the cards that Hallmark makes that can say the feelings you have although you can’t put it into words, thus don’t let another year go by without acknowledging dad as he deserves this day and if you missed it, call him tomorrow and say something wonderful tell him you love him and you spent the day remembering your times together and are so glad he’s your day. Don’t get old like me where it’s too late to say the things you felt and thought you’d do another time, as our lives are short-lived  99 years is a wish and a dream and swift so too every father who reads this post blessings and joy to you and your families on this Fathers Day and to any child who didn’t make the call or visit yet I hope you will it’ll make you feel great and there are probably no words in the heart and mind of the dad you told I love you too so please just do it.
 
 

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Our New Site

We are giving you a sneak peek of our new front page…this is exciting as we’ve been working on the changes for months and in addition to the new look (my icon included) designed by Liz and it really looks like me now with my short hair and filled with grey silver and old age (oh well).

 

We’ll be starting our contests adding new subjects and looking for guest poster’s to spice up opinions.  We hope you like what you see and that this new format is only the beginning of building traffic and having fun while sharing experiences and thoughts because as you know life is stranger then fiction and the more I read with other bloggers and their stories the more I’m convinced we need each other as there is a lot to learn together.


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I’m focusing on having a stress free sun filled weekend here in Western New York and trying to do some of things I enjoy while reflecting on the book “The Secret”  where you are encouraged to focus on the theory that what you feel is what you receive (The Law of Attraction) and create  positive Karma in my life.

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Robin Easton is my star because she is following her dream and living the life she desired not the cards that are often dealt to you, there is much to be learned from her as she took the leap of faith and began doing what her heart and soul beckoned her to do.  I love reading her posts they are filled with wisdom and experience and today she explains how to learn to forgive instead of harboring hate and all the pain which will consume you.  Please take a moment to read this post and view her wonderful photos then click back to her site and make it a regular stop as you tour the blogosphere.  We have so much to share with each other as bloggers and here’s a lady I’d love to meet someday and just look into her eyes and tell all that’s in my heart.  Let us know what you think and leave her some comments she’ll respond.



A look at forgiveness in the face of hate:

1. When I feel hate from someone else, which almost never happens, I say to myself, "Although I’m not responsible for another’s choice to hate, is there anything real I might have done that I need to take responsibility for?”

2. Then I choose to look at the situation on a soul or psychic level. I like to distinguish what might be someone else’s feelings and what are mine. I can all too often and too easily feel another person’s feelings. So I like to separate their feelings from mine. It allows me to more clearly see the situation and let go.

3. I’ve always seen hate as a secondary emotion, the original or base emotion being fear. I’ve experienced life as two fundamental emotions: fear and love…with various off shoots from these two emotions. In many cases if we can get to the base emotion we can more readily understand what’s really happening.

4. I’ve learned to not carry someone else's emotions out of my own past conditioning. Example: If someone hates me (or is angry with me) and I take on that hate by feeling hurt or bad about myself -- as if I deserve to be hated -- I confirm several things for this person: A. That it's okay to hate. B. That what they are doing is working and okay to do with me. C. That they are a bad person. When someone treats us poorly and we respond with either hurt or anger, in their mind it often equates to, “See? I’ve hurt someone again, so I really must be a bad person.” I don't think anyone really wants to hate. It hurts to hate another person.

5. I’ve learned that I can set solid boundaries; I don't have to stay in the presence of someone who’s sending out hate. It’s not good for my spirit and soul. Likewise I’ve also learned to model love in the face of hate. If I feel love toward myself then I won’t identify with someone's hate. I see that I am worthy of love, even with my failings and mistakes.

6. I try to meet anger or hate with real love, given freely, no returns expected. I go into myself and find the soul of that person who’s hurting or frightened and I tell them they’re safe and loved, and not just by me but by Life. I’ve seen amazing results doing this, even over great distance. I forgive them and myself. I forgive even while they are in a state of hate, because they are in a state of hate, because they are part of me and I am part of them. In forgiving them I forgive myself.

7. I’ve learned that in many cases people do change. People do heal. People do learn to love. Meeting hate with love and forgiveness can change (save) lives. It may take time, but no love, no forgiveness is ever wasted.

8. When we forgive someone else we’re really forgiving ourselves, every time. It’s easier to forgive if we can look at forgiveness as a gift we give ourselves as opposed to something we do for someone else or something we have to do.

9. As children we were often forced by our parents to forgive other people, even when we didn’t feel sorry, even when we did nothing inappropriate. We learn to see forgiveness as a loss of self, something we have to give someone else instead of something we give ourselves. Forgiveness sets us free and on it's deepest level is really about self not "other".

10. There are many in the world who’ve been crushed by heinous acts of hate. These souls may never be able to forgive or even find peace. Some haven’t seen kindness in so long they know the world only as cruel. But for many of us there is so much we can forgive. We must do it for those who are unable to forgive. We must do it for ourselves. We must forgive with no expectations in return, do it because we want an end to war, do it because no one else may do it…ever. Forgive simply because we like who we are and how we feel when we forgive. Forgive because it fills our world with hope; another drop of love falls into The Great Ocean of Peace. Will you take the first step with those in your life?

"Given the chance our love is like the gnarled and twisted tree. Exposed to the elements of wind and rain, it will hold fast to become a thing of beauty, a timeless work of art."      ~ Robin Easton

Much Love,
Robin

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Your self Portrait and your life

Are you living the life you wanted?

Are you doing all the things you want to do before your last breath or are you missing out and feeling as though there is now way to get where you dreamed of going?   I’ve decided to think (again) about what makes me happy and ask myself the million dollar question “am I content and further am I doing what makes me joyful with my life”?

Self Portrait

Taking your own picture

Is success in you future?

Are you sick of having to depend on others for your success?

 

I’ve spoken to a lot of younger people and they all want to know how to gain success in the shortest period of time my granddaughter summed it up when she said gram can’t I just start at the top?

 

At fist I thought she was kidding or perhaps naïve until I saw the perplexed look on her face as she pondered what will it take to just go there instead of waiting for it to find you.

Then I realized she probably wasn’t alone and that parents had been so sure their children would make it big or be successful that we all (me included) forgot to tell them it was going to take time and in some instances a lot of time.  Thus my post for Sunday morning  how can we become successful  especially during these difficult economic times and is there a Secret to success a book DVD  computer program to purchase in order to be on our way to making millions and this is all I’m saying for now until my next post which may be later today.

 

So there think about the question and I may have some thoughts you’ll like later…

Are You doing what you really want in Life?

Are you really doing what you want with your life?

Even grandmas my age have regrets.  In fact recently I’ve spoken to my friends and most of them would have changed several things if they could go back in their lives.  Of course, we know that’s not possible; so forward you proceed.  However, is there something you can do to make your life what you dreamed it would be? 

Would you have to quit your job?  Move out of your neighborhood?  Go to school, or retire.  There are many things that have a profound impact on your happiness even when you’re old.  Often it’s overwhelming when I think about what I would really like to be doing.  Yes me, I’m far from where I’d planned to be at this time in my life, and frankly my time is short-lived.  So I’ve read some books and been seriously thinking about what I need to do to change my course and asking myself what is really important to me right here and now.  As I ponder I wonder if I’ll be surprised at my answers so let me know some of your thoughts as well, because we all know misery loves company.

Even more intense, as I go through this will I have the courage to make the changes?  You read books, watch talk shows which give advice and experience where the objective is to help you move forward in a different direction.  As I mentioned in other articles there are no reruns in this world.  You get one chance and that’s it so with this in mind…I’m thinking.  What’s my next move?  Will I be making a transformation which ultimately will make me happier? Or will things remain status quo.

Most of us think about what we missed or secretly dream about what really would make us happy and ultimately achieve our goals.  So for my New Years resolution, and yes it’s early I’m going to think and dream about what I haven’t done which I really would like to do.

So here are some of my first thoughts...

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