First Wives World is a favorite on my blog. I love to visit and read about the women who continue to fight for a fresh start once divorced. Their courage and strength is often an encouragement to what I see with many of my friends and associates. Often times I hear myself giving some of the advice I’ve read from First Wives. 

When I began reading the site today I was refreshed by one of the post. The young woman was grateful her children were spending more time with her family. When she was married her husband discouraged the visiting and having her relatives at their home. I was saddened at the thought of other women who are married to selfish or bully husbands. They are usually insecure and deliberately keep their wives and families separated from each other. This is intentional as it weakens the wife and gives the husband more control. The wife often feels alone; not realizing her family can be strength rather then a hindrance. I’ve read where abusers who divide and conquer by keeping their victims isolated. Sometimes the husbands will verbally abuse the wife; to reinforce the fear and separation which weakens the fight and confidence of the victim.

This brave woman has moved on and is keeping her family close. I was empowered by her story and encouraged she had moved on. She was regretful that she had been fragile and lost time with her family. My advice; be thankful she figured it out and never let it happen again. And by sharing her story, it can help others see where patterns like this are occurring within their family. We can’t change the past; however, we can make our future better and so we should.

When families are good, they are paramount. They will be there for you… love you unconditionally, help you when you’re down. Take care of you when you are sick and love you no matter how much of an inconsiderate brat you can sometimes be. If you teach your children the importance of family, they’ll know instinctively they will be there for them while they are growing up… There is nothing that compares to the bond and reassurance relatives can give when needed.

I’m glad I read her story, and I’m pleased I shared this with you. Let’s think about the importance of our families. Let’s remember the last time you called one of your siblings.

I’m going to reflect on some good memories and I’m going to contemplate how much I love my children and grandchildren … I’m going to be thankful for this time and celebrate the good stuff. It’s a majestic day and a simple post from First Wives gave me my inspiration. Hoping this grandmother gave you something to think about tonight..

My best, Dorothy

3 Responses to “Grandma, tells you the Importance of Family”

1. Grammology – The Self-Help Blog – MyBlogLog on January 7th, 2008 at 1:19 am

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2. Lisa Lam on January 8th, 2008 at 9:29 am

   Hi Dorothy,

   I read your goals over at eMoms and I just wanted to say, you are a truly inspirational individual.

   Happiest New Year to you!

3. grammolo on January 8th, 2008 at 11:01 pm

   Lisa Lam, I hope you will contact me by my email. I think your site would be a great feature on grammology. I would like to give you a link and feature your site, you could write a guest post, it would go well with our site especially when we change our page layout which should take kplace this week…… Please send me your email address. Thanks, and thanks for the best wishes. Yesterday I started my inspirational healing tapes and books and I feel better already….

   Dorothy