Comment..to grammology

hey sherry my name is capria im 15 years old but my birthday is jaurnary 22 1992. i just wont to ask you how is my year going in 2008 and will i found true love this year.

Above is a comment I received from a reader. I found her question compelling so I had to write a post. Capria, is asking the magic question. Will I find true love? Further, how many married couples do you know who after a few years remember what true love feels like? Do we often settle for less, and why? Or is it right there in front us simply needing to be revitalized?

I think this is an important question as two of my grandsons ages 24 and 26 are getting married this year. I’m convinced both are marrying their true love. Will true love continue for them? It can however, I believe only if you’re willing to work to keep it flourishing. Love can be similar to a bank account. It’s what you put into it that makes it successful, let us consider it the marriage account. Can love be that simple that all we have to do is make the deposit it will grow? I hope my grandsons read this, copy and keep it in their marriage photo album. We all tend to forget what we promised in the beginning and this can help remind you of your commitment to your partner.

Couples who maintain to being happy always seem to know what their partner needs. They aren’t concerned with who did what last, or whose turn it is. They are united where values and their lives exist cooperatively. They deposit in many ways by determining the needs of each other and helping when they can. That same old marriage account we spoke of.

Being aware of what makes each of you happy is part of the account staying filled. The old vows, although some times are modified are really the most outstanding. Straightforward and wholesome; to love, to honor, in sickness and in health, for richer or poor; and of course there is more, however, you get the idea. Being there when needed and not feeling your marriage is management intense. Instead feeling good you are able to stand by your spouse, for whatever is going on, making that marriage account deposit.

In an ideal world, couples would have gotten to know the other persons dreams before they make a commitment to each other. They would have discussed children, the kind of home you each expect. Talking ahead of time, as to whether or not the spouse will work, or if your husband prefers a stay at home wife. If you both are career minded the home will be different. Meals and time together will have to be worked out. If you both work stressful jobs, even small conversation can be demanding, as you may not be up to chit chat when you arrive home from a hard days work. Determining how each will react to those conditions will contribute to a deposit or withdrawal in your marriage. Are you seeing what I mean regarding making a contribution to the marriage account?

You might consider this ancient, and not up to today’s standards with a good marriage. However, sometimes less is more, and here more is better. Of course, if one or the other is not interested in giving it won’t work. Therefore those discussions we mentioned about each others needs above are imperative. So consider..

If either of the couple is selfish, controlling, temperamental, or worse, a narcissist.. You’re destined for failure. And oh, there is in my opinion one big item to consider. Marriages need a unified belief in God. I don’t care what your religion is you need to believe in God as a marriage. And if you can, go to church regularly as a family.

If you’re convinced you found your true love and you want to spend the rest of your life with him. Be willing to work towards maintaining true love the rest of your time together. Make those deposits into the marriage account and don’t forget the effort is worth it. Many couples allow themselves to not remember the happiness they felt when they first met. Don’t be willing to settle for less. Sit down with your partner today, tonight, soon and talk. Remember when you first met and what made you want to be with each other. Decide what you may have forgotten. Determine new ways to bring your marriage back to life. If you were in love before, there’s a good chance you can rekindle it again. It may require time and a lot of effort. However the results will be astonishing. So capria, you may only be 15 however, your question was a good one. And I enjoyed the trip down memory lane.. Now I think I’ll consider how to reawaken the magic in my marriage. This can’t be that hard…I’ll let you know.

Thanks for stopping by and I hope I gave you something to consider in your current relationship or marriage.

One Response to “True Love, give to the marriage account”

1. Grammology – The Self-Help Blog – MyBlogLog on January 17th, 2008 at 4:05 am

   [...] to Google Latest Content True Love, give to the marriage account – 1 day ago  Comment..to grammologyhey sherry my name is capria im 15 years old but my [...]