I’m saddened for people who seem to have no one to call upon when they are depressed or in need of someone to talk too. There should be some kind of hot line, you call and say…hey, I’m alone, having a bad day and just need to chat for awhile. Hearing a voice can be assuring enough to get you through the day. We are the specie that needs human contact and support. So if you have no family it can be devastating. And sometimes you hesitate to tell friends worrying when you move on from the crisis; they will still remember and wonder if you made the right choice. Choices you need to make yourself. You can listen however; ultimately the final decisions are yours. So maybe one of our goals will be to start a hotline for people who are alone and just need to know someone is out there who cares. If anyone knows of such help send us the links or phone numbers.

So what can you do to give yourself friends who will be there just to talk and chitchat about your current state of affairs if you don’t have family?

First you have to make sure your body is as strong and healthy as possible. Yoga can help you breathe your anxiety into submission and help you feel centered and at peace with yourself. You control your feelings and learn how to deal with the apprehension. I took a few classes and it really works. There is something medicinal in being able to breathe properly. If you can’t afford the classes; although there are a lot of insurances who will pay for health club fees or at least part of them and the clubs most often have Yoga. Otherwise, there are usually free televisions programs where Yoga is featured. Check your directory and get in the habit of watching and breathing during the program. I’ve done this and have been quite impressed with my results… When I don’t feel like grabbing the DVD I watch a Yoga lady on television very early in the morning. I rarely get through the whole regiment; however, it’s enough to get me started towards a better breathing day.

Although there is nothing like one on one contact, it’s still the best whenever possible. So my first thought is always my church. I’ve told this story a hundred times and it’s all true. I was brought up with religion and I know most of the churches offer self help groups for every issue life seems to give us. If you are alone, do some research in your community? Match the church to your beliefs and start visiting. Don’t make a quick decision; allow this to be an adventure. Try to make the church close to your home. Check out the support groups, they are usually listed in the bulletin where they show a monthly calendar for events. This will give you an indication of what the church might offer.

Meet with some of the staff and ask questions. Sometimes like Eastern Hills Wesleyan Church they offer introductory classes as to the history and what the church mission is. My church has been here for me during every step of my cancer surgery. They even offered to cook if I needed it. They always end their cards and prayer thoughts with what
do you need and what can we do? It doesn’t get any better then that .

Once you begin visiting check out the friendliness of the parishioners. Not all churches have all things. Some can be close knit, if you sense that move on. It’s not what you’re looking for. Don’t take it personally as people are a function of who they are. If they are close knit and stand offish. It’s alright there are many churches today and you’ll find the right one if you are persistent and try.

It took me many churches before I found the Wesleyan. There are several versions and the one I attend is magnificent. I couldn’t be more pleased. Sometimes my husband and I go to other churches as he is Roman Catholic and occasionally needs to go there. However, I have never been more content and fulfilled then when I go to their services.

They have greeters, support groups, chorus, prayers, etc etc. The choices are endless. So consider a church and start looking. And if your depressed make sure you get counseling. There are options for counseling, you have to find them. I never implied this would be easy. Only that it could be rewarding to you personally if you were successful.

Don’t allow yourself to be alone. If there is anything I know there is someone just like you hoping to meet and connect with a person who’s walked in their and your shoes. Start with your mind and body getting them thinking together while you’re going to church and working on your physical health with the Yoga. Go to church and celebrate life. Pray for strength and guidance. Ask God to show you the way.. Hopefully you’ll be surprised as to the success of your adventures while learning more about yourself.

Good luck, and my hope, someday you’re not alone…and by reading this article you’ve begun a journey towards a strong mind, body and circle of friends who will be there if you need them…It doesn’t get any better then having someone to call when your down and out…

My best,

Dorothy from grammology

Remember to call gram…

5 Responses to “There is no need to be alone in this World..”

1. FENICLE on February 3rd, 2008 at 3:13 am

   I whole-heartedly agree. There are NOT enough support services for those who live alone and have no family/friends to call upon. It especially saddens me to think of the elderly who are approaching the end of their life and to know they yearn for human contact.

   We recently officially joined a local church and have gotten involved. I was shocked when their pastors came by to visit me in the hospital after learning I was admitted. They have called twice since then offering services such as a home health nurse to visit, meals, rides, etc… I was glad to see that our church reaches out to those in need. I am blessed to have a wonderful support group of family and friends, but I know there are others who desperately need these service.

   Hope you are recovering well!!! My prayers are still with you.

2. sherry on February 3rd, 2008 at 4:13 am

   Hello mom, I am keeping you in my prayers throughout the day. I agree that with all the people in the world, we should be able to figure out how to make sure everyone has someone.

3. grammolo on February 3rd, 2008 at 3:27 pm

   Emily and Sherry, thanks for commenting..I keep thinking of the sad and lonely souls who go through this stuff and have nobody to call or visit them. I’m proud of my church which like Emily’s and ours goes all the way to help those in need.

   Stay with the prayers, I just said mine and it will take me through the days.

   Hugs to you both..Dorothy

4. Army Mom:New Jersey | I Didn’t Fall Off The Face of The Earth on February 5th, 2008 at 6:43 pm

   [...] Dorothy Stahlnecker’s last blog post..There is no need to be alone in this World.. [...]

5. Sometimes it’s All About Mommies | eMoms at Home on February 9th, 2008 at 7:39 pm

   [...] Dorothy Stahlnecker’s last blog post..There is no need to be alone in this World.. [...]