When my two granddaughters came to visit yesterday, I was tired and wondering if I was up to having company. By the time they left, I was filled with joy and optimism for their futures. Thus the title of this post, hoping my two granddaughters at 18 and 19 will have a successful career or job in there future. So for this post, grammology is suggesting you get thinking about your kids futures earlier then later. It’s not so easy anymore. So let’s start thinking about how your kids will survive successfully when they become adults… it happens sooner then you think….. Can they afford a car, a home or apartment? Will they have food in their fridge? What will they do to earn that abundant living?

While the girls were growing up, there were very little thought regarding how they would earn a living wage. My daughter and her husband were solid parents and I was the grandma who was there for whatever they couldn’t manage. We were a team and together we got through a hard twenty years. My daughter bearing the brunt as I like her husband was always working and Sherry had the seven kids and an enormous amount of work just keeping the laundry and day to day chores up to par.

During those times, there was very little concern with what they would be doing when they grew up. Sherry’s two stepsons Nick and Matt have a wonderful, educated and great mom. She thought ahead about college and had a great affect on her sons, and always lent a hand to what Sherry may have needed. Jill went to school and received her degree and began a fantastic career in the college education system. She was an amazing source for Sherry while they raised their children together. It was a very unusual relationship Sherry and Jill forged. One that influenced Jill’s sons and Sherry kids. They grew up loving each other brothers and sisters for life.

I hope someday I’m able to write more. Step moms, ex-wives, who can be compatible while raising blended families. Sherry and Jill are living proof it can and was done for over 20 years. Those boys love and respect both their mom and Sherry their step mom and there is no competition between Jill and Sherry only deep respect and true friendship and love for the families and keeping their lives on tract.

Now here we are faced with Kala and Mary needing to think about how they will do with their futures. Maybe we’re late with the planning and thinking however, it’s foremost on our minds now. And we are hopeful if you haven’t thought about it you will and if you did you’ll agree and pass it on to those you love and care about.

If you have teenagers, get them thinking. Our family is a throw back from the 50’s and 60’s we believed women should stay home, take care of the children along with the house including dad as he comes through the door. The single male today wants his wife to work and contribute to the family as much and long as she can. Even after childbirth, there is daycare and the mother continues her career.

So unless you have millions to trust to your girls prepare them to work and earn a solid living. Don’t forget your sons’ as they will need to prepare as well.

I’m not implying it’s a bad thing… I’m stating what I’ve encountered. If you ask me, I think mothers should stay home. However, I doubt there would be a lot of marriages. So moving right along, lets get Kala and Mary back in the groove and thinking about what they can do to have a future.

We spoke more and Kala is trying sales with her dads company. Mary wants to help developmentally disabled children. This is particularly close to our family as my husbands daughter who is 34 lives in a group home and her parents are always concerned as to what will happen when they are not here as her advocate. So to have Mary in the system where Tracy lives, would be wonderful.

Whatever they do, we will encourage them and ask have they searched within their hearts to find out what their passions might be. Will they begin their journey with something that’s just a job or will it be from their hearts. As they go out there. I’ll try to get more progress as to how it’s going for them. Most important, start early with your kids and don’t let up until they are doing something that works for them… Unless you have a money tree, or rich inheritance coming; your job is a big part of your life. It will decide where and how well you live. What you’re able to do, and in the end contribute to your happiness at home. When they say money isn’t everything it’s partially true… However, you need to eat, have a place to sleep and a job to provide it. Get started and be diligent. Your future depends on it.

Mary and Kala are thinking and beginning action. I’m proud they’re on the right track. We’ll be there the whole time.

I’m having a good day today. feels great to be able to write to you again…my best..

Dorothy from grammology

Remember to call your gram….

9 Responses to “What Grandmas’ Hope For Their Children and Grandchildrens Futures.”

1. Grannymar on February 3rd, 2008 at 7:17 pm

   Dorothy glad you are feeling better and in the form to blog!

2. sherry on February 3rd, 2008 at 11:28 pm

   hi mom, glad you are having a good day today. I am equally glad you had a nice visit with the girls. I’m sure they will find there way in the world just as we have. I think we just need to be patient while they search. I’ve stopped pushing because it only seems to add stress to our relationship. I am just keeping silent. I love you mom. I am glad they have you to talk to from a different perspective.

3. grammolo on February 4th, 2008 at 2:22 pm

   Sherry thank you for allowing me to be such an important part of your family. I hope and pray that our blog…professes how wonderful it is to feel loved and needed by your children and grandchildren.

   They most important thing in the world to Joe and I…our children….Our four daughters and our grandchildren..it doesn’t get any better….

   Love and hugs…to my friends readers and family..as this blog is helping me with all the things I will experience for ovarian cancer..my gratitude…Dorothy

4. grammolo on February 4th, 2008 at 2:23 pm

   Grannymar, thanks it feels so good to blog..it is like a cleansing for me. I’m so happy for the support and loyalty of the readers. It has helped me more then I could ever have envisioned.

   My best, Dorothy

5. Shelagh on February 4th, 2008 at 8:01 pm

   Glad youre back to blogging … dont try to do too much !

6. grammolo on February 5th, 2008 at 10:16 am

   Shelagh, I’m trying and thanks for the support..Dorothy

7. Jill on February 5th, 2008 at 2:14 pm

   Dorothy
   Thanks for all the nice things you said. If you remember correctly it did not come easy at the beginning we ALL had to work at it and I am so glad we did! Our love & support is really all the kids need, they will find thier way. And Sherry your right not to push just try to provide them opportunities to find themselves. The boys would once in a while say to me “Mom I don’t want advice I just want you to listen” They were wiser than me at times! It’s hard not to try to help knowing what we know through lifes experiences. I love you all and am so fortunate to be a part of this giagantic family! Dorothy please take care of yourself and know my prayers are with you. Jill

8. Robin on February 6th, 2008 at 1:43 am

   What an amazing thing that your family has accomplished…most importantly keeping the kids at the forefront!!!
   It’s important to remember that Kayla and Mary most likely will change so much too!! I am a different person from who I was ten years ago, in the type of career I was interested in, and in the type of guy I was interested in…I was a bit of a late bloomer, although always had a strong work ethic…thanks to mom and dad!!!
   Hang in there Dorth…good to see you today, and know how many people are there for you!!!
   Robin

9. grammolo on February 6th, 2008 at 8:46 pm

   You guys are amazing…thanks for the wonderful words..sometimes they make me wonder who I really am..

   Hugs..Jill and Robin..my best fans…I only say the truth..even when I shouldn’t (don’t we know that Robin, when I get in trouble oh well its me…..) love you….and thanks again…