Kala and her Friend Samantha

Kala tells me she was best friends with this man before they ever entered into their physical relationship.  They could spend hours talking. They always wanted to be together, yet were able to live normal lives at the same moment.  They had there time and usually knew when the other needed space.  This relationship went on for quite a while.  When it broke up Kala was different.  She was mature and seemed to realize what she had just learned.  She was sad however, somehow seemed to realize this too would pass.

We further discussed how her sexual part of the relationship was and I was pretty surprised at her comments.  She was filled with a mutual bonding which they shared, each understanding the other’s needs. It never felt anything but natural to Kala.   This to me was unusual when you consider their ages.  Yet currently she has not been able to replicate anything close to what she knew during this time.  It made me wonder if age had anything to do with when you find your soul mate. 

Currently she is busy deciding what her future will be.  She doesn’t think about her past much.  She knows her future today is the most important part of her life. Like Mary she has to decide what will motivate her to get up and want to go to the same place for perhaps the rest of her life. Kala realizes the money you earn from your job is the vehicle that takes you to the places that you want to go. So she has asked her self, “Does she want to travel? Does she want to stay local”? She knows she loves to write; she seems to have a gift with expressing her inter thoughts and connecting them to her readers. If journalism is so special, how would she do this? Would she work as a reporter, would she write a book? Or can Kala see herself as a commentator on TV? I see Kala as a debater. She is heavy into research and understanding what she needs to know to prove her point. She has done this her entire life. She could take you to your knees if you’d let her. When Kala believes in the subject she is discussing, there is no going backwards. She won’t end it until it is over. If it needs to be fixed she won’t stop until she figures out a plan. Understanding Kala makes me wonder if she will end up being an attorney who represents children or women in need, people who otherwise would not have an opportunity to have good council representation. Kala is a fighter, but with a heart who understands right from wrong. With all of these talents and gifts who can predict what she’ll do? 

Now she knows exactly how she wants to be treated in a relationship, and what love is and isn’t…and she isn’t giving up that she will find it someday.  I hope she takes awhile to work on her career and not focus on love or relationships. There is plenty of time for that part of her life later.

 I’m blessed with my granddaughters’ each gives me their point of view regarding their life. They are honest and innocent as they share what they feel, and what they’ve done so far and where they hope to go.  If we are ever going to help our children, we need to know what’s happening in their world.  Not judge give good advice and hope their history as a family will move them forward making good choices.  Our family is always going be the umbrella if and when needed.

Have fun, living life, making choices based on good judgment and past experience.  Wisdom in life, will take you through the good, bad and different occurrence out there.   We’ll be there to watch and live it with you.

Hugs. Dorothy from grammology

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