What do you think is the most important part of your life? Is it material, or is it personal? What is the difference between material (home, car, money in bank) and personal (people you love, family, children) etc etc. My daughter got me thinking about this when she surprised me and said……I learned something about love mom and what I think it really means. Hmm I thought where is this going? If someone you know dies and you feel no personal reaction to their being gone….you couldn’t have loved them. You might have admired them, or liked them, and even may miss them….however if there is no loss in your life. You probably didn’t love them. What do you think mom, do you agree? My jury is still out on her analysis however, it got me thinking more about what I do with family, friends and my job which helps accumulate all the material things.

Time spent with my family was the most important thing I could do although, there were still plenty of times when I did have to choose work. I always weighed in at its importance to my financial future so I could provide for their needs. It was never because of what I wanted always because of a commitment I had and would be determined to keep…I believe there is a critical time in most careers and their success that takes away from the home and family but in the end brings financial success and time to make up later. There of course are those who take advantage of working and would rather not be with family using their job as a reason for not being home and even when they can never catch up.. Who are you? Do you love your family? And are they the reason you work hard so they are well taken care of while you’re here and after? I know my answer and I would bet anyone who knows me will say…my first love is our family. We do as much as we can together. Speak to each other all the time and rarely miss an important event in each others lives. Having many dinners together as breaking bread and just talking to each other is another way to share the love.

The car, home and table settings are pale to the feelings a warm hug and smile can bring to my heart and soul. And something I couldn’t have understood is the love our grandchildren give us. Each day is filled with something new…some good and others well challenging. However, my cup is truly filled. And I very well know the difference between material and personal. And Sherry’s thoughts about loving and loosing go hand and hand with my question of who you are material or personal. And now that I’ve asked the question given the choices which do you want to be? Maybe you’ve mistakenly thought building a fortune instead of a family was more important…now that you know it, dare to ask yourself, are you fulfilled and if not is there something you can still do to feel needed and loved by someone somewhere.

Sometimes personal is management intense…down right irritating and inconvenient. Or costing you a lot of money you may find yourself saying why I would choose this route its so dam hard. Even when life is tough and all days aren’t good days. Make no mistake. The smiles, the warmth and oh that love that got me thinking about material verses personal is overwhelmingly worthy of the harsh times. For when you hear I love you mom, gram, sis, brother, friends etc … it’s a wonderful world. I wake up feeling I’m needed loved and filled with joy. Thank you God and never let me forget how important this is to life. My life and hopefully yours now that you’ve read this post….

My best, Dorothy…..

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2. Kellyanne Davis on February 25th, 2008 at 2:58 pm

   I loved this entry on family. Just yesterday I woke up early, put on a pot of chicken soup, made some home made bread, and called my parents and my mom-in-law. I needed to have a comfort food dinner with the most important partners in my life.

   Cherish the time you have with the ones you love. Sometimes the things that look unimportant from the outside, are the most important to you.

   Thanks Dorthory