Unconditional Love what is it?

I’ve been trying to determine what subject I’d write about next on this blog as there’s been so much going on in my family  I couldn’t decide what was most important and then it came to me what exactly is unconditional love.

We talked about moms missing in action and how awful it can feel when you are lacking in feeling accepted or not being loved by a parent and in most cases it seems to be the love of a mother is what we long for  I can never decide in remembering my parents which one I wanted to love me more therefore, that could be another post, who should and who usually does love their children the most, and of course my initial response (because I’m a mom) it has to be the mother however one might choose to think I’m just a little prejudice.  Thus I looked up the word unconditional love and was amazed at the simple explanation which is from my research tool after spelling:

Complete or guaranteed, with no conditions, limitations, or provisos

How can something so powerful be so simple and when you think about it almost impossible to give I mean can you really say you’ll love someone pure and simply forever including your children or is it a figment of someone imagination. Then I found myself wondering if it was easier to have this love in our past when things didn’t seem as complicated as they are today I mean just think of the divorce rate in this country and the parents who split up and inevitably, it’s never the same for the children one of the parents usually doesn’t do what they’ve done in the past and the lives of the kids are dramatically different and usually not for the better.  Note I didn’t say which parent again however, most of the time it is the father who interacts less with his children after a separation or divorce.  There I go again showing just a small amount of prejudice toward moms and I wonder is that inside me and automatic as well am I that species’ that try thought I may, I can never give up on my family and I’ll always go out of my way to make sure things are alright.  Where does that instinct come from and tell me mothers, is it there for you and what are your thoughts regarding unconditional love and what I really wonder is who has it today or are we seeing less as we enter this digital, technological, lifestyle with so many gadgets it takes 15 minutes to check all your voicemails and computer messages.

My daughter had an incident with her oldest daughter and it was not fun because she was certain in the heat of the moment she’d never speak to her daughter again (I was there for all of it) and when she was leaving I yelled I love you and sent her on her way home  never saying a word to her about her position for the moment, knowing her love would triumph and once she’d get over the hurt, anger, and disappointment things would be alright and the issue would resolve itself for her and her child.  They did and the family is doing well things were said to make strengthen their bond along with a clearer understanding of was and what was not acceptable to my daughter.  When you are raising your children and they become young adults it becomes more difficult for everyone to remember who they are in the “Pecking Order” therefore sometimes children think they are the experts I’ve raised my daughter and grandchildren to remember I’m the matriarch and in my home and if it doesn’t work for you leave and come back when it does.  I’ll miss you and I’ll love you forever however I do not and will not put up with your bullshit….yes I said the word and it’s my interpretation of what the bullshit is and I invite them to carry on in their homes the way it works for them however in my company until I’m filled with old age and incompetence, it’s my way or the highway and once again filled with my love and devotion however if you must leave now and come back when things look brighter its alright.  Thus I ask does this make me have  unconditional love or is it conditional I think my love is there however conditions exist and everyone who knows me agrees this very much describes my personality which I accept and heartily approve of.

Therefore looking through my window and wondering about yours, what do you think about my internal feeling which I’m sharing today am I unconditional in my love or  loving with conditions however strict in what is and isn’t acceptable in my world.

Looking forward to your thoughts…Dorothy