Putting your kids on the school bus can be very traumatic.

The first day of school can be a rough day as most of the time kids don’t want to leave home therefore how you prepare them before the essential occasion can determine just how dramatic it will be for the family. When they are younger they often want mommy or daddy to drive them to school as buses can be complicated and if there are bullies or older kids on the same route with your child there can be social issues to deal with and if yours is one of the kids that has experienced teasing or bullying in the past your going to see the fear of God in these kids before school even starts and even worst these thoughts are real and you have to be prepared to deal with the quandary so your child doesn’t begin the year filled with anxiety and fear, This along with being able to often balance a full time job, running of the household, and being the driver when there are after school events, so if the world knew how dramatic this was for us as parents the feelings, nightmares or sleepless nights while we attempt to resolve the problems before they begin we’re not in any better mental shape then our kids as  the school cycle begins we’re just good at hiding our fears and insecurities as well.

I remember writing about my grandson Noah last year he’s six and I’m guessing my daughter and he are already beginning to feel the worry of the first trip on the bus and knowing my grandson he probably doesn’t want to go to school anyway when Noah had to deal with bullying and he didn’t do very well and I’m guessing not many of us do therefore telling him he’ll be riding the bus this year isn’t going to be easy for his family and my daughter would prefer home schooling anyway therefore I’m waiting to hear what the final choice will be this year I haven’t even had the courage to ask her which direction she’s heading in.

Thus, I’m going to share a few thoughts regarding preparation for school and I realize some kids have already began however, in the Northeast we start the day after Labor Day which is soon and these feelings can still assist you as your children wake up crying that they don’t want to go and your heart is breaking as to what to do as a parent.

First they have to go to school and going has other benefits besides the important education they receive patterns your children will use throughout life discipline, having to get up at a certain time, preparing to be on time, and leaving the house when you need to catch the bus, walk or ride.  Behavior patterns are being established which will help your child prepare for the real world as adults when they begin to work their first job, they  have learned to be on time, prepare a plan within their rooms as they decide what to wear the next day, and what they’ll need to bring to school for lunch and school supplies,  all of these commitments occur before they get on the bus and as parents we are teaching our children what they require before they leave their home and these routines can be very important to their future therefore remember what they are learning habits you are teaching by being a diligent parent as they prepare to leave  home for school to become an adult and here are some of the things they’ll learn by making them be part of the team before they walk out your door.

Being on time teach them the importance of not being late instead being early.

Planning what they’ll wear the night before making things easier that morning no rushing around creating anxiety as they are already know what there’re wearing that day for school.

Being organized with school supplies or homework by morning no anxiety as they go outside the door as what they need is already in their backpacks so they feel confident as they head out to begin their day knowing they are prepared.

Learning to determine how to get it all done before they get on the bus building good behavior as the child accomplishes his part of getting ready for school and parents please make it a partnership don’t do everything for your child teach them it’s a family effort and school will be fun as well as important to their future.

When you comprehend that during the first 18 years of your child’s life 13 of them are in school not including college, parents need to give a strong signal as to the importance of their education and help them embrace their time away from home.  Quietly I always hated to send my children to school and I’d wish I could build a compound keep the whole family within my reach and teach them we could live as a family with everyone together in our own little world protecting us from the mean outside place I secretly despised however it’s not healthy and most of the time it makes little sense to even think those thoughts therefore adjusting your ideas to the real the human race may be where you begin in order to prepare your children for the world we live in and forget my feelings they weren’t helpful toward teaching my children the importance of getting a good education which is mandatory today.

Consequently if you’re anything like me or my daughter you’ll think about the good things school can do for your children and the patterns and habits you can build as they enter school and prepare for their day which begins with the ride. In addition I know as a parent it’s not easy and if you’re a single parent and have to deal with work and budgets for all your children’s needs it can be harrowing therefore perhaps other moms and grams would like to give us their thoughts and ideas as to what you might do as you begin  school with your children how you deal with the mornings and when they return home thoughts which make life easier (is that possible) or are we destined for stressed lives forever and do you agree good things can begin with your child going to school even before they leave their home.  Do you give your children responsible things to do before they go to school building habits they will use throughout life do I make sense here I hope so because a few weeks ago my daughter told me for the first time she wished she’d listened to more of what I said regarding my way verses her way while bringing up her children and wow that was a pleasant surprise she’s 43 hope you don’t have to wait that long to hear those words…mamma mia….