Wishing you a great week because life is hard at it’s best
My daughter is 43 and wondering if there is enough time for her in life and I’m betting there are a lot of you who feel the same everyday thus when and how should you attempt to make sure there is time for what makes you happy. I told my daughter at this moment in her life there really isn’t enough time for you and with seven children ages 6 to 28 and now 6 grandchildren there would be very little time for herself most of her life will be managing how often she can be there for her family however, there are ways to make sure you nourish you and the challenge just how, thus five thoughts which might give you a smile here and there during your busy weeks especially with the holidays on the horizon because if I said anything else my feelings I’d be stupid because when you have a family that large you need to buckle down take a deep breathe and realize your life is not your own these thoughts might help you get by.
Five ways to live through raising your large family
Ask your self what really is important to you do you read, watch certain television programs, or love to eat out with friends or your husband then make sure at least once a week you pick one thing and do it.
Have a family meeting and let each child and your husband know which day you need to do personal errands via salon to have your hair done or perhaps a massage ask your children to help you accomplish this as you may need them to baby sit or do things to get you out the door.
Make sure you talk to your friends via the phone or coffee visit if they live close by; I still think about the few friends I’d have coffee with when I was in my forties I didn’t know until years later how recharging it was to my life.
Journal when you can as you’d be surprised as to what an entry can tell you when you go back and re read it the secret you share in a journal often will help you know what’s really bothering you ponder your feelings often.
Most important, find a confidant you can trust telling them what’s on your mind and they will listen without judgment treasure that person.
The hardest part of living a little life for yourself while raising a family is having to decide you deserve it, I can’t stress the importance of your own self confidence and believing in yourself this won’t work unless you decide you merit private time and then plan a course and take it, as we can talk until we’re blue in the face and it won’t happen until you commit the time you need to feel happy thus while raising your family and managing a husband your personal life is on the hold, get use to it and find moments and hours and consider them precious because the golden years aren’t when you’re my age those times equal the survival mode where good days come far and few between so what do we have to look forward too happiness and serenity small doses get used to it.
And too my daughter strength and courage to face whatever will come your way….mom
I am overwhelmed just considering the idea of so very many childrem–lol…I think your advice is wonderful! I wish your daughter much much good luck with finding time for herself. I agree—It Is Soooo Very Very Important!
That is a great idea, but I think it is easier said than done. I work while my kids are in school and then needs to take care of them when they get back. Since I need to work while they are at school and need to supervise them when they are out, there is not a lot of time to do things for myself. I am working on making more time so hopefully I will not be able to say that in a year.
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Wise words.
I’m a firm believer in the importance of couples making time regularly for themselves. I think it’s important to sustain a good relationship. I also believe the stay-at-home wife definitely has to have time for herself to nurture her mind and spirit. These commitments are important not just to the adults in the household but the children, too.
We had five children. My wife did a lot of the “raising” part and I worked a lot just trying to keep up with buying five pairs of shoes at a time for them to have to go back to school. Now, three of them are over 50 and to are creeping up there fast. We managed to make time work for everyone though it was a challenge.
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I love your blog and this post was awesome! I have only 2 children, but your advice will still work well for me. My lovely sister-in-law has 7 (YEP, SEVEN) children, and I am going to repeat some of your wise words and thoughts to her. Her hubby is going through treatment for brain cancer and I think she is a little overwhelmed right now!
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So true, so true!! We absolutely have to take time for ourselves, and take time to just be ‘us’, not ‘mom’ or ‘wife’ or anything other than just ourselves!!
I had four kids and it was difficult to find time, but it became a necessity. I started reading one book per week when they were busy with activities and the play dates gave me time with other moms so we could feel sorry for one another. Your advice to your daughter is priceless!
Great tips! I have four kids and it is hard to find time for myself while treasuring the moments with my children.
My goodness your daughter started out young didn’t she. My Mother had me at 13, I was born in Oct. my Mom turned 14 in Dec., so now that I am 73 and she’ll be 87 in Dec. we feel more like sisters than Mom and daughter. As Abe mentioned, we have five, oldest is 53, then 52, 51, 47 and 36. I don’t know where the time has gone. We also only have five grandchildren. Our son the 52 year old, has a daughter 27 and a son 26, oldest daughter has a son 17, the 51 year old has a son that is going on 11 and the 36 year old has a daughter going on 10. The 47 year old never married and has no children. We were Grandma and Grandpa to her dog Mack that recently died. Thanks for stopping by my blog, I do appreciate it.
You are a wise woman! My sons have left home now, but I look back on the days when I was so tired and stressed and money was tight and life could be very difficult indeed, and I do treasure the good times.
You’re right. We need to decide what is important to us and make time. We need to live in the moment – and that means ‘now’, however old we are. Don’t think ‘I can do that tomorrow, next week, or next year’ because it’s surprising how time vanishes and you still haven’t done those things. If there’s something important to you, do it now.
For me, it was especially important to do things with my children, so that’s what I did. My memories aren’t of a career and plenty of money to take holidays and have lovely clothes and run a great car, they are of making do and staying local, but having fun with my kids. Playing games, teaching them things, showing them the world. And I’m happy to say that we are still close, though they are in their twenties – and they tell me they had a great childhood, which is beyond price.
Your daughter will not remember the housework, she will remember the time spend with her children, and with family and friends. She needs to make the most of those times!
I only have one, with the second on the way and it’s still a struggle to figure out how to balance it all.
We all figure it out, but these early years of parenting can be pretty intense.
I applaud you for being so honest with your daughter!
A confidant who listens to you without judgment…aaahhh…that sounds like a fairy tale….do such people exist, grandma D?
I hope so! 
Wise words from a wise woman. I’ll keep these in mind especially when i’ll become a parent in the near future.
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Nice article. All the best to your daughter.
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