A mother and daughter miss Daniel
Today is my son’s birthday he would have been 36, he was killed in an auto accident October 4, 1991 it’s over 18 years ago and my heart is still broken thus, during this week I fill my mind with thoughts of what life would have been like if he hadn’t driven his car that day and instead lived to grow up and be with us would he have gone to college, married and had children what would his life be like. Then I wonder why Daniel why my son and then I realize I’m not the only parent with her heart broken, her soul damaged forever, there’s a lot of us filled with that pain and we hang in there and remember the years we had, the amazing times, and the oh so many wonderful moments we experienced while he lived, memories in our hearts forever. Our Daniel was full of life and lived numerous adventures be it on his motorcycle, the four wheel vehicles, dirt bikes, and even a regular bicycle which he’d often ride around Grand Island where we lived which was 26 miles and Dan would ride the island twice. He was an athlete and I’m sure would have been one of those extreme sports guys who bungee jumped or parachuted off big cliffs, he adored living life and I found myself loving his lifestyle, living vicariously through Daniel as he seemed to have no fear and instead wanted to know and feel everything life could give him. My daughter Sherry and I thought he was the most wonderful son and brother each of us could ever be blessed with, we miss him so much it never really goes away and sharing his memory does make it easier.
I cannot even begin to imagine what the loss of Daniel did to your family, my dear. I have two very very close friends–both have lost children, and I know the words you said about it never going away are so very sad, but so very true, too. My heart goes out to you today, Dorothy…..And I send hugs to all of you. (((((((HUGS)))))))
Dorothy, I can’t imagine your heartbreak. Good memories are what you have and can cherish. Thinking of you on this day.
My thoughts are with you . Such a beautiful young man . x
Being a mother, it breaks my heart…. And I know, no time can heal a mother’s wound, but so glad that you have so much good memories of him to live with…
XO
*hugs*
Thanks so much for sharing this. Sadly there are so many who experience this heartache and so many who don’t understand it, and I appreciate you letting us in on this part of your life. I’m sorry to hear about your loss. I can’t even imagine having to deal with something like – the death of a child. I do understand never really getting over something like this, but getting some comfort from sharing it because my father died about 32 years ago and I still feel that loss.
Your son sounds like he was a wonderful, loving and carefree young man.
Dorothy,
I am terribly sorry for your loss and I can only imagine that days like this (where he would have been turning 36) must be particularly painful emotionally. I’m so sorry.
Hang onto those wonderful memories you mentioned and the thoughts of his love for life and free lifestyle he led.
I’m glad sharing the memory makes it easier for you.
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Jeanne
Grandma D,
I am very very very moved and deeply saddened by your loss.
But he is now your angel.
I want to wish you magic…much much magic for the holiday season, Christmas, the New Year, and for far far beyond that! Take this magic with you and believe in it always!
Lovingly,
C
Dorothy, He sounds like a special young man. My thoughts are with you.
you still can hear his voice near to your ears, you still can see he walk in front of you. Sometimes you will hear like he is calling you. He still and forever will be in your heart. You love him so much & you miss him now. By the God love he come to you before and by the Good love he return. He is so lucky have a loving mother like you and too lucky because God love him till call him back earlier.
Dear Dorothy, This is soooooooooo beautiful, the way you speak of youself, your son and your daughter. I just love what you wrote about his zest for Life. You gave me something writing about what he loved and how full of life he was. I relate to that so terribly strongly. It confirmed part of myself. When you read my book you will better understand what I mean.
When you wrote: “…he adored living life….he seemed to have no fear and instead wanted to know and feel everything life could give him.”
When I was his age I DID have fear, a lot of it, but I shed it all in my mid-twenties in the rainforests of Australia and I grew to be just as you describe your son here. It’s how I still am.
I am soooo glad I got to see a picture of Daniel. I can see a lot of you in his face. He is as strikingly handsome as you are strikingly beautiful. I also really like AIM’s comment above. I feel all those I’ve lost still VERY MUCH with me, guiding, loving….just with me. I know this, you are one TRULY TOUGH woman. You are filled with deep wisdom and courage and I blessed to call you “friend”.
Love,
Robin
My heart is with you.
Robin, thanks so much for the wonderful thoughts it was a different way for me to write about Dan and it felt empowering to tell my friends that he was so filled with life and how I admired him.
All of you have been so great these last few days as I find myself thinking and missing Daniel and thinking about his life.
Hugs for putting up with me during this time of my life and to each of you who commented here I am so grateful to share my son and read your wonderful words..it’s been good for me because I’m perplexed that after so many years I still yield so much loss of not having Daniel here to share our lives with and I wonder when or if it ever stops.
So to Naomi, ShelaghScott, Kathy, Butterfly,Daniel,Petula, Jeanne, C, Marion, Aim, I look and read all of your helpful words..thank you…
My very best, Dorothy
Your Daniel must have been quite a Guy Dorothy.
Warm wishes, Ken
I’m so sorry for your loss Dorothy. I can’t even begin to feel your heart ache. This was a beautiful post in memory of your son. He sounds like he was a wonderful young man. Thanks for sharing.
Hugs
Michelle
Dearest Dorothy, sending love your way on this day, this day when your most special boy was born. My heart aches for you and I join the big circle of love enfolding you on this day.
In times like these, words are cheap…
So I’m sending you Huge Hugs….
*Huge Bear Hugs*
My heart aches for your loss and I know exactly how you feel. I lost my Son a year ago and I’m so grateful I did see mine grow up and I had 38 years. This tribute to your Son was beautiful thank-you for sharing, he looks like a beautiful young man and I’m so glad you have great memories of him.
I can only imagine the heartbreak you and your family are going through as you remember your precious son, especially at this time of the year. As a parent my thoughts and prayers are with you. Take Care – Peter
Oh Honey! My heart is breaking for you. I could never imagine a loss like that. I am sending you virtual hugs.
My heart is with you, Dorothy. I cannot imagine how deeply this hurts. It makes me appreciate you all the more as a person because you offer so much heart on your blog, yet have suffered a great deal. I wish we could all hug your pain away. Alas, I know we cannot. But feel yet another warm hug from someone who admires you greatly.
I am very happy you shared Daniels picture with us. I am so sorry for you and Sherry that you didn’t have more time with him. My prayers are with you both.
There is nothing anyone can say to ease the heartache when you lose someone close to you no matter how long ago it was, nor does time heal broken hearts, because they always will think of what could have been, or more to the point, what should have been had they not been taken from us.
I have tears in my eyes and my heart goes out to you and your family. Losing a child is horrible; hold on to the memories. Blessings, Sage
So sorry to hear of your loss those years ago and forever with you. Treasure the memories you have. Can only imagine what coping with such a loss must be like.
Hi Dorothy,
I am so sorry for the loss of your loving son. He will always be a Blessing to you and your daughter. I believe you will see him again, one sweet day.
I am so sorry for your loss even this long after the event. A loss such as yours can be so devastating and I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
There are no words to express a loss so great. Thinking of you. Warmest thoughts.
Mrs. S,
I was a close friend of Dan’s and think about him many times throughout the year. In fact, I searched his name today on google to discover any information regarding his legacy, which led me to this nice tribute. I know his birthday is in december (as is mine) and wonder what he would be like each passing year. I can only remember good times with Dan. He was very funny and quite an adventurer for sure. He lived life to the fullest and faced all chanllenges which were presented to him. I know if he were here he would be the same fun loving, hard working and loyal guy he always was. I continue to be sad for you and your family for his passing. I also miss my friend very much and will carry on with his memory forever. Thank you for your moving tribute to our wonderful Dan.
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