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New Years Resolutions

30 December 2009 32 Comments

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What do you really want in order to be happy?

Because New Years Eve is on the horizon, many of us begin reviewing the past year and ask ourselves what we want to change in our lives in order to achieve success for the coming year, the majority of the time we attempt to loose weight (that would be me) quit smoking, or get a better job. However, as I’ve asked friends this question and you dig deep into their psyche you find a different story, we know the normal triggers divorce, marriage, children, family, jobs, issues we ponder every day however, instead consider their unspoken feelings rarely discussed in general conversation, unthinkable moods we clutch and never want to tell friends about, especially if inside we’re unhappy in our lives, because we’re embarrassed to admit this to anyone as it portrays us as weak within ourselves and it’s easier to pretend everything is alright and not be the discontented person in the group we really think we are.

Thus, as I formalize what I’ve been hearing from my friends and family over the past year, assessing how those I love are feeling about themselves and their futures, I’ve decided if I can help them establish a way to understand their own needs and realize they can achieve personal satisfaction and find happiness for themselves, maybe you’ll consider doing the same thing for people in your life, and your resolution will be unlike any kind you’ve made in the past, because you’ll be making a difference in someone’s life (for the better) and sometimes all you’ll need to do is listen to what they’re saying, let them tell you what’s really on their minds and in their hearts, just knowing someone cares can be important and help them during difficult times. Thus, this year my resolution is to consider other people’s lives and whether or not I can make a difference in how they view their future, and I’ll share some of my findings as I move forward and learn more about what being happy means in other people’s lives as I’m convinced it will be a great journey and I’ll grow and benefit as well, because my mom always taught us that when we give if we really listen, there is always more coming back sometimes you have think about what it is, however, the silver lining is always there.

32 Comments »

Tabor said:

Oh this is so true and I am intrigued by your challenge. Looking forward to your results.

# 30 December 2009 at 10:55 am

Connie said:

Listening is the first rule of communicating! You’ll be a blessing in many people’s lives!

# 30 December 2009 at 11:15 am

meleah rebeccah said:

Oh this is a FANTASTIC New Years Resolution. Ive been asking people for suggestions on my own blog because I was fresh out of ideas!~

Wishing You A Safe & Happy New Year!

# 30 December 2009 at 12:48 pm

Kelly said:

My friend, this hits home and as all your fans should do—I thank you
Kelly

# 30 December 2009 at 1:01 pm

askcherlock said:

You are a very perceptive and thoughtful person, Dorothy. Often you read between the lines and see exactly what lies beneath. People may listen, but they don’t often hear. You do, and I thank you for that.

# 30 December 2009 at 2:55 pm

deems said:

Hi friend, this is wonderful. i like it!!

# 30 December 2009 at 4:21 pm

ChrisJ said:

What a good idea. It will be interesting to learn about the results.

This will make your New Year happy!

# 30 December 2009 at 7:30 pm

C said:

Dear Grandma D, at the dawn of this new horizon we have in front of us, I want to greet you and wish you all the beautiful things that your soul has to offer to you and to the world and I also wish for you all the blessings you desire, from up above!

May you have a very happy and prosperous New Year!

Thank you for being everybody’s grandma D. throughout the year 2009!

Love,
Charity

# 30 December 2009 at 11:29 pm

FishHawk said:

That is one of the best resolutions I have ever heard of. I wish you great success.

# 31 December 2009 at 5:32 am

Grampa Ken for social change said:

Friendship is such a wonderfull comforter, stress reducer and propblem solver. When our thoughts are occupied with other things and other people there is less mental capacity left for anxieties and self-doubt.
Good old Buddha had it right; “The rule of friendship means there should be mutual sympathy between them, each supplying what the other lacks and trying to benefit the other, always using friendly and sincere words.”
Internet pals are ok too Dorothy, best for 2010 and beyond …

# 31 December 2009 at 9:10 am

Fatima Da said:

Lovely Post, wonderful idea and I wish you luck as you step out to make this difference.The rewards are usually marvellous … Seasonal greetings to you and your family

# 31 December 2009 at 12:33 pm

Kay Dennison said:

I love this idea!!!! It’s making me look at myself a lot harder as I consider what I really want in the coming decade.

# 31 December 2009 at 12:46 pm

PJ said:

stopping in to wish you and yours a very happy new year…hugz!

# 31 December 2009 at 4:23 pm

Boondock Ma said:

Hi Dorothy! What a beautiful post and resolution!

Thank you for thinking of me. All is well, just worn out. I finally updated my blog.

I hope 2010 is a great year for you and your family!

# 31 December 2009 at 8:02 pm

Gran said:

This is a wonderful resolution, Dorothy! All the best to you and yours–Happy New Year!

# 31 December 2009 at 9:12 pm

Jill Shelley said:

I’ve been thinking along the same lines lately. Trying to see others through their eyes, and not mine so much. I’ve also been pondering the past few days just how I would like this year to go.
I’m glad to discover your blog!

# 31 December 2009 at 11:09 pm

Deborah said:

Hi, This is an amazing site!
Happy New Year and thanks for visting my Kindness blog!! I’ll be back for sure

# 1 January 2010 at 12:30 am

Jeanne said:

Dorothy,

Happy New Year! My blog post just published tonight explains my personal take on resolutions but I love the way you talked about it here.

I’m sending happy and healthy energy your way!!

Jeanne

# 1 January 2010 at 12:50 am

Anya said:

Happy New Year
Thanks for your visit ….

(@^.^@)

# 1 January 2010 at 7:55 am

Granny Annie said:

Great inspirational message Dorothy. Thank you.

# 1 January 2010 at 9:31 am

Cecilia said:

Hi Dorothy,
It was nice to hear from you on my blog. I enjoyed reading you message today.
Cecilia

# 1 January 2010 at 2:11 pm

Angeline said:

*smile*
Happiness is simply being at peace with self…
When that’s achieved, everything else falls in place…

Happy New Year to you and your family!

# 2 January 2010 at 12:57 am

Snappy Sparrow said:

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

# 2 January 2010 at 1:23 pm

Peter McCartney said:

Hi! I have never been the one for making New Year Resolutions as I never seem to stick to them! Much the same for most people I’d imagine. But I do hope that with each new year that I will be happier than the previous one! Wishing you the same – Take Care – Peter

# 2 January 2010 at 4:49 pm

Mrs. Mecomber said:

Dorothy, I hope you had a blessed Christmas and have an even more blessed New Year. I like your idea for New Year’s resolutions. SO many times, we think of “shallow” things, such as weight, appearance, read more books, blah blah. But making the most out of what we have– now that’s something precious.

God bless you and your family!

# 2 January 2010 at 7:23 pm

stefbunny said:

Happy New Year!

God bles you and your lovely family!

# 2 January 2010 at 11:12 pm

Robin Easton said:

Dear Dorothy, What a beautiful resolution. Very profound and unique and yet…SO YOU. I think when we’re willing to be open to others in more than a surface way, willing to let them share their deepest feelings, concerns, joys, ideas, regrets, whatever it is…then we truly change the world. We liberate ourselves and others from often too constrictive and destructive “social prisons”, which often teach us to hold it all in. Don’t rock the boat. Save face. Keep up the image. And so on.

But if we can listen WITHOUT judgment, without trying fit the other person into our value or moral system or way of responding to the world….then we will not only have the great honor of seeing who they REALLY are, but they also will get to discover more of themselves. We may be the ONLY one they show their true selves to, but it can be enough to set them free. We also liberate ourselves and come to know REAL love, compassion and wisdom. When we listen with truly open hearts and minds we expand our OWN perceptions, beliefs, and view of the world.

This is a HIGHLY admirable resolution. I look forward to hearing how your journey goes. You are a real gift to those we are blessed to share in even part of your life. So I count myself as blessed. Thank you for your generous and gracious spirit. Love, Robin

# 3 January 2010 at 4:13 pm

C said:

This post of yours has reminded me of something some woman said whilst we were watching Kathy Griffin and that guy with white hair what’s his name in Time’s Square for the New Year on CNN….this lady turned to the mic when asked for her New Years resolutions and she said… “Gain weight and start smoking.”

That really made me laugh!!!!! Now that’s a way to enter into the New Year!!!! Throwing ideals out of the window and embracing a good sense of humor!!!!! hahahahahaha!

# 3 January 2010 at 10:16 pm

Chris B said:

An excellent idea! Making thoughtful resolutions is hard since most of us make ones that aren’t easily done and we give up – this however makes sense!

# 3 January 2010 at 10:45 pm

One of The Guys said:

This is a resolution we all need to have.

Mine, to just be present as much as possible and enjoy the moments.

# 4 January 2010 at 6:09 pm

vitamins said:

Hello
This is a great post and its really interesting for me to know about your resolutions for new year.After reading this post I must say that you are a good hearted person.I like that you have shared this with us.

# 9 January 2010 at 7:27 am