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Getting Ready To Close Grammology

dorothy — Sun, 16 May 2010 19:16:42 +0000

Getting ready to shut down grammology

I’ll be meeting with my partner Linda, sometime in the next few weeks and we’ll close grammology something I’ve been thinking about for the last few months. I’ve really tried to learn more about our site and how to increase traffic however, it’s just not me and I’m not going to torture myself any longer attempting to do something which adds stress to my already hectic life.

I’ve learned much over the passed few years therefore a big part of me is feeling bad that it’s come to this finale and the end is near however, for my sanity we have to follow through and get this baby down take a break from this commitment and decide what path I’ll choose later because, in my opinion when one door closes if your open to change, often something new and better comes along who knows what’s next in life when things calm down and what I’ve learned from blogging is immeasurable and will stay with me forever.

Because of grammology one of my life dreams has been accomplished which was to be able to write my thoughts and opinions, share with others what I’d be thinking about and dam if this site didn’t just do that, while allowing me the freedom to say whatever (good or bad) had been on my mind in fact I wish I had more time for writing as it’s been better then a psychiatrist for me. In addition, while visiting other blogs I learned so much about other lives and how they often paralleled mine it assured me I wasn’t alone and even suggested other ways to deal with issues I had, which sometimes was a better way then what I’d ever done before with my problem. My greatest joy during this time was making friends with other bloggers, reading your comments and thoughts which I knew came from your hearts. Thus, I’ll truly miss you and think about this special time in my life with my partner Linda and her son Miles who headed us down this road and into the blogging world with no regrets and only wonderful memories I shall never forget.

I’ll let you know when we’ll say goodbye I hope I can figure out how to keep your email addresses so we can stay in touch, continuing to see our lives evolve maybe facebook will be the place although I can’t seem to understand that darn site either however, there is always the hope that I’ll figure it out in the future and we’ll be able to stay in touch because all of you have been an unexplainable treasure I hope to keep alive in my world forever.

Blogging the double edged sword

dorothy — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 00:16:22 +0000

I was pondering how many bloggers ever thought about shutting down their blogs and if so, what was the major reason to stop blogging, as it’s always gave me so much satisfaction and yet sometimes, I’m overwhelmed by the obligations it creates. So I ask am I the only blogger who feels this way or do you find yourself thinking there’s not enough time for me and maybe blogging is the thing I have to give up therefore, please share your thoughts tell me what you’ve done and how you feel about making the commitment to blogging or have you considered quitting because life’s become so intense you had to give up something and blogging might be they only thing you can choose.

A while ago I wrote a few posts about blogging for grammology sharing how it had been one of the best experiences of my life, it’s done more then just allow me to write, it’s given me discipline, I’ve learned more about expressing myself, better skills at telling my story by sharing my deepest thoughts, asking you to give your reactions which gave me support for my happiest and sometimes darkest times thus, if this question is confusing it’s the same for me and I’m hoping you’ll shed some light on my dilemma and tell me if this is normal or am I alone in this quest to determine just how important blogging is in our lives. Please take some time to consider the question and explain what blogging has been in your live and if the obligation ever made you consider giving up your blog and if it has did you.

Blogging for better or worse… which is it..?

dorothy — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 18:31:02 +0000

Blogging–my prescription to sanity

I’ve been blogging for over 3 years, we started our blog grammology.com so we could eventually write a book about my life with one daughter who gave me seven grandchildren and now 6 great grandchildren therefore, I was able to share a little of their lives and mine and all the unwanted advice I’d make them listen too, it was wonderful yet, some days I felt so stressed, I’d ponder should we stop blogging did it take too much of my personal time, as I work a full time stressful day job and yet for the first time in my 63 years of age, I began to understand how it feels to have a passion, something which incited my heart and soul comparable to an artist as I can create anything that comes to me and some days my hands feel as though I’m working on a canvass with paint and a brush and I have to no choice as to what I’ll write, it just happens, I’m thinking one focus and then the post is finished, and I’m astonished as to what I did, as it’s so different from what I thought I’d be writing about and the feeling is almost always serene and joyful, fueled with thoughts of what I’d do next and yet yes, will I do this again and I wonder why something so fulfilling can also be so perplexing.

And blogging has affected other facets of my life, something I couldn’t have predicted as I’ve improved my ability to express myself by using word tools and research, and really it’s been fun as I’ve done this at my speed and learning level. Even when I write an email today I’ll think about how I do them now and what I wrote before, and I’m so satisfied with my progress and how I’m able to start and finish my thoughts and understand more clearly what I was meaning to say. It’s helped me write reports, do memos and stay on the subject it’s made communications on all levels better and I can’t even tell you when it happened it just did.

So I wonder have any other bloggers felt that by being able to have your own site, control your own subjects, and learn more about communication that you find blogging has had a positive affect on your personal life as well. And most important has it allowed you to think about your inner self and given you an open door to thinking about your future because as I’ve read about other bloggers’ posts I realized many of my thoughts and feelings seem to be theirs as well, therefore, knowing I’m not alone made me believe I could learn from you by your past experience and wisdom by continuing to share our thoughts in our blogs.

For these reasons blogging has changed my life and I haven’t even told you its effect on my psyche (the human soul and mind, our consciousness and awareness) which are confidently different than when I started writing about grandmas and how they manage their families, now it’s how I’ll continue to live my life, and am I doing all the things I ever wanted to do or what did I miss, it’s been amazing and even though I’m not sure for how long I’ll continue, I know there’s not a moment of regret and as I listen to you, I’ll wonder if it’s true many of us face these questions everyday because life for most of us, is more complicated then we’d like and that won’t be changing, so shut up and enjoy what you can because that’s the way it is and I’m happy I have you to vent to.

So tell me please if any of this sounds familiar so I can smile as I read your comments which will tell me once again I’m not alone and us wonderful bloggers will prove it.

Help Grammy get to Vegas BlogCatalog Contest

David — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 13:37:19 +0000

Why I should go to the Blog Catalog ….in Vegas

I’ve been blogging as a grandmother since 07 sharing wisdom and experience as a mother, grandmother, wife, and friend. There’s so much going on with our children blended and extend families, schools and how they can influence children simple issues bullying that our children have to endure and what parents can say and do to help ease the experience many will have. The single mom and the guilt she lives with every day as she walks out the door and isn’t home when the kids return from school it still upsets my stomach when I lament and my daughter is 43, those feelings are with us forever, and by sharing with other moms and grams sometimes we can relieve the pain or ease the stress of finances when one of the parents doesn’t do their part regarding the care and expense of raising a child sharing those feelings with bloggers has become part of the solution to our mental distress which seems to be so widespread today with moms, and the family we treasure these site often yield ideas and places to go too for help.

Because I’m 63, a mother, wife (for the third time, have dealt with divorce) sibling, grandmother and now great grandmother and friend, who continues to work full time when all I’ve ever really want was to be home I could share so much with bloggers and how blogging has changed my life as for the first time I’m fulfilling a passion in my soul as blogging has altered my life by opening doors which otherwise I’d never knew existed and I’m in the process of writing a book and this could only happen because I’m blogging.

I remember the book by Anne Frank and the mystery and attention this little girl caught the nation with and in my opinion blogging is the Diary of Anne Frank only for millions of frustrated and hurting moms and parents and I want to be able to tell this story and encourage more of us to seek this avenue to survive.

How many of us are secretly addicted?

David — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 14:42:37 +0000

I was rushing around this morning hoping to get to work earlier so I’d have a good start as next week I’m going on vacation (the whole darn week) and I can’t wait, as this is the first real holiday since I was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer in December of 07 and had my surgery January 18^th (who’s keeping track of those infamous days) be assured it’s me as every appointment with my oncologist I celebrate being cancer free. However there I go again getting off my intended subject because I have so much to write I wish I could do this all day long however, we know I have a day job therefore this will be quick and when I confess the addiction many of us share I’m wondering if I’m alone or are there other friends (You) who could confess here to the same quandary.

Thus this picture will tell it all and I’m hoping when you stop by today (isn’t that positive thinking) you’ll enlighten us with your embarrassing moments and agree we all should step back, analyze where and when it’s not appropriate to do this deed and remember what I secretly confessed, I’m an offender and by coming out and admitting it I’m hoping I can break this awful habit, do you agree and are you willing to share your story? Mine well I was talking to a client and I forgot where I was and yes I flushed and I know he heard and I could have died however graciously neither of us ever mentioned what had just occurred and I was hoping the whole thing would just go away did this ever happen to you?

What not to say to customers

dorothy — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 03:01:48 +0000

Who have you offended lately?

What do you say when a customer your trying to talk into giving you a $3.5 million dollar listing reminds you of what you said last year when he told you it was going to a competitor, plus he reminded me I told him I was disappointed and he’d be sorry for his choice and then he heard a click and I’d hung up? Of course when he reiterated my conversation it all came back (so clear) and I couldn’t deny it, as it was true and there I stood one of those awkward moments, errors in judgment and I knew I’d never live this one down.

Oh yes in my career (all 30 years) I’ve done it all when it came to spitting out what was on my mind and it usually does come back to haunt you and here I was reliving my personality, expressing what’s always on my mind and seemingly not knowing I don’t always have to say what I’m thinking. Thus I looked in straight in the eye and admitted I did it apologize for the lack of better profession behavior and then, I hesitated for a moment and whispered may can I ask if I was right? He smiled and replied yes however at the time I thought you were a #itch or having a PMS day and let it go, therefore the million dollar question will he give me the listing this time.

That was Tuesday and I haven’t heard from him yet and if you’re interested I’ll let you know if I get the deal because I think I really do have buyer for the property and it would be a shame if he didn’t give me a chance to make it up to him. And if you’re wondering why I’m admitting to such dumb judgment it’s because my adage is to learn from your mistakes or bad choices and I’m surely giving this experience serious reflection as I’ve made statements I’ve regretted before and I’m hoping to eliminate my need to always tell what’s on my mind as it often gets me in trouble (are you surprised).

Therefore I’ve concluded:

Think for a few moments before I respond

Ask myself if what I’m going to say will help or hurt the person I’m talking too

And most important stop thinking everyone wants my opinion which is going to be the most difficult thing for me to do because as you know I just love telling you what’s on my mind although remember all you have to do is click and away I go that is until the next time please therefore, keep coming back I have more to tell.

Cheers Dorothy

Guest Post From Robin Easton

admin — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 23:03:09 +0000

Robin Easton is my star because she is following her dream and living the life she desired not the cards that are often dealt to you, there is much to be learned from her as she took the leap of faith and began doing what her heart and soul beckoned her to do. I love reading her posts they are filled with wisdom and experience and today she explains how to learn to forgive instead of harboring hate and all the pain which will consume you. Please take a moment to read this post and view her wonderful photos then click back to her site and make it a regular stop as you tour the blogosphere. We have so much to share with each other as bloggers and here’s a lady I’d love to meet someday and just look into her eyes and tell all that’s in my heart. Let us know what you think and leave her some comments she’ll respond.

A look at forgiveness in the face of hate:

1. When I feel hate from someone else, which almost never happens, I say to myself, “Although I’m not responsible for another’s choice to hate, is there anything real I might have done that I need to take responsibility for?”

2. Then I choose to look at the situation on a soul or psychic level. I like to distinguish what might be someone else’s feelings and what are mine. I can all too often and too easily feel another person’s feelings. So I like to separate their feelings from mine. It allows me to more clearly see the situation and let go.

3. I’ve always seen hate as a secondary emotion, the original or base emotion being fear. I’ve experienced life as two fundamental emotions: fear and love…with various off shoots from these two emotions. In many cases if we can get to the base emotion we can more readily understand what’s really happening.

4. I’ve learned to not carry someone else’s emotions out of my own past conditioning. Example: If someone hates me (or is angry with me) and I take on that hate by feeling hurt or bad about myself — as if I deserve to be hated — I confirm several things for this person: A. That it’s okay to hate. B. That what they are doing is working and okay to do with me. C. That they are a bad person. When someone treats us poorly and we respond with either hurt or anger, in their mind it often equates to, “See? I’ve hurt someone again, so I really must be a bad person.” I don’t think anyone really wants to hate. It hurts to hate another person.

5. I’ve learned that I can set solid boundaries; I don’t have to stay in the presence of someone who’s sending out hate. It’s not good for my spirit and soul. Likewise I’ve also learned to model love in the face of hate. If I feel love toward myself then I won’t identify with someone’s hate. I see that I am worthy of love, even with my failings and mistakes.

6. I try to meet anger or hate with real love, given freely, no returns expected. I go into myself and find the soul of that person who’s hurting or frightened and I tell them they’re safe and loved, and not just by me but by Life. I’ve seen amazing results doing this, even over great distance. I forgive them and myself. I forgive even while they are in a state of hate, because they are in a state of hate, because they are part of me and I am part of them. In forgiving them I forgive myself.

7. I’ve learned that in many cases people do change. People do heal. People do learn to love. Meeting hate with love and forgiveness can change (save) lives. It may take time, but no love, no forgiveness is ever wasted.

8. When we forgive someone else we’re really forgiving ourselves, every time. It’s easier to forgive if we can look at forgiveness as a gift we give ourselves as opposed to something we do for someone else or something we have to do.

9. As children we were often forced by our parents to forgive other people, even when we didn’t feel sorry, even when we did nothing inappropriate. We learn to see forgiveness as a loss of self, something we have to give someone else instead of something we give ourselves. Forgiveness sets us free and on it’s deepest level is really about self not “other”.

10. There are many in the world who’ve been crushed by heinous acts of hate. These souls may never be able to forgive or even find peace. Some haven’t seen kindness in so long they know the world only as cruel. But for many of us there is so much we can forgive. We must do it for those who are unable to forgive. We must do it for ourselves. We must forgive with no expectations in return, do it because we want an end to war, do it because no one else may do it…ever. Forgive simply because we like who we are and how we feel when we forgive. Forgive because it fills our world with hope; another drop of love falls into The Great Ocean of Peace. Will you take the first step with those in your life?

“Given the chance our love is like the gnarled and twisted tree. Exposed to the elements of wind and rain, it will hold fast to become a thing of beauty, a timeless work of art.” ~ Robin Easton

Much Love,
Robin

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Retirement

Kelly — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 18:07:49 +0000

I may be tired from working hard lately but I’m exhausted from just keeping up with what is happening on Wall Street it’s disturbing to see the mismanagement and greed we’ll have to pay for. When my 401 envelope comes I throw it in my file cabinet unopened (I am in no way suggesting you do the same, but personally I can’t stomach reading it.) I’m thoroughly convinced the only way I’ll be able to retire is by winning the lottery. The main factor in putting off retirement is maintaining health insurance coverage. It seems that at a time in life when health care is of prime importance the availability of decent insurance coverage and providers is lacking. I’ve several friends in the same boat, staying in the work force longer then anticipated. In 2007, almost 39% of the labor force was over 55 years old and over 10% of people 70 years of age and older who are not institutionalized are still working. The only saving grace for me is I enjoy my job and have Grammology.com where I can vent my frustration (aren’t you lucky?) Furthermore, with the wonderful news that I’m FREE from cancer I’ll be writing more!

Back to Wall Street; every evening when I get home we turn the on the news to see what the Federal Government has decided to do with our money, which lately is bailing out more banks, investment houses etc. We have to wonder what these government bail-outs are going to mean to our future and I have to ask “Who is going to bail out the taxpayers?” We should all be concerned. Can this cycle be stopped or are we compounding the problem? I really want to know.

Yesterday in the Wall Street Journal there was an article regarding the CEO of AIG being required to step down as a condition of the government loan (this was the largest government bailout of a private company in U.S. history…so far.) He was appalled and threatened to not comply; can you believe the arrogance of this man thinking with the chaos and financial status of his business he deserved to continue working as the head of an otherwise potentially defunct corporation?

Earlier this month, The Federal Housing Finance Agency which took over the two mortgage giants Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac, notified former CEO’s of both organizations that “golden parachute” payments will not be paid. These executives were looking at receiving $24,000,000.00

Let’s talk when you’re not so agitated.

Kelly — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 16:46:17 +0000

I called my daughter today to discuss an issue I wanted her help on in the future. As I was trying to summarize a long story I was leaving out details and she didn’t understand what I was trying to explain causing aggravation as we talked. Consequently the first thing I decided was:

First lesson: it’s not always good to summarize. Often all the details are needed.

During our conversation I upset Sherry because the subject was sensitive and she became confrontational. I have the gift of making Sherry so provoked that before we finish our conversation we are never able to get to the point of what I called for. Even though this wasn’t about us she felt the pain we were trying to stop for someone else. Therefore we began feeling hostile and often you pick at each other and don’t even realize it.

Second lesson: learn to preempt the conversation by saying this is going to be a tough subject would you help me out and listen before you react? Thus giving her time to sense you’re calling for help and not trying to upset her…therefore she doesn’t hear what you called for and if she can help…

The subject was not about us; it was someone I was searching for an idea to help. However, I’ve experienced getting caught up in the problem and its drama and not being able to focus on what you’re trying to do too resolve it.

Third lesson: think about what you have to say, and have the issues clearly described before you begin talking. Eliminate the drama and go to the facts explaining how you think they can help. Hence, being counterproductive and not accomplishing anything.

So when I called my daughter today and she became frustrated; instead of us getting mad at each other…which can sometimes happen. I was able to say Sher, let’s talk when you’re not so hot. She was annoyed because it was a tough issue and we both knew it would be a difficult to help. As a result I’m writing to say all problems can be complex. Even when they are not within your family it doesn’t mean you can’t feel the pain and frustration when you can’t always heal them. Because we’re a provoking kind of family; we can often get mad at each other when we’re really not. It’s the frustration of not being able to fix the problem.

And since my cancer, yes I really mean my last experience with cancer. I’ve mellowed, stood back and tried to help myself as well as my family. I’m trying not to be so spirited, staying focused and trying to figure out how to resolve issues without yelling and swearing. (A gift given to me by my mom…and bless her soul, I love her). However, she always swore and passed her yelling and swearing on to me. I in turn, passed it on to my daughter and I’m hoping we can stop the cycle change our way of expression. I call it a footprint over my brain. If I think about the three lessons above before a phone conversation with Sherry; I’ll be able to make progress and finish a phone conversation without irritation. I’ve made great strides with yelling and now my goal is to stop completely of swearing, (I am better). The real problem; it was second nature and never seemed serious or defensive.

I’m not looking for nasty criticism here, and I’m not blaming this on my mom. She was a wonderful lady and gave her whole life to her family. Everyday was a day for mom to give something to someone. Our mom’s biggest treat was bingo the rest of her life was trying to make someone who it needed feel better. The idea that she swore didn’t phase us we knew it was her way. What I hadn’t considered was that it also became mine. Consequently this is not a bash momma day. Its learning and growing where and when you can. When I didn’t start yelling at my daughter today, I knew I was making progress. Instead, I told her we’d talk when she wasn’t so hostile. That enabled me to bring up the subject again in the future. We didn’t argue and get mad at each other for no reason. This often happens and creates stress between us and we automatically allow a cooling off period before we talk again. No period required this time and I felt empowered by my ability to not get provoked for any cause. After all I was calling Sherry for help not disagreement. This wasn’t our problem it was something I was hoping I could make a positive contribution too.

Therefore listen up if you will… Communication with your family and friends is critical and only you can change how you project yourself. I’m trying to be wiser (shouldn’t I at this age)? Use my wit and wisdom not polluted mouth; enjoy a positive not negative surroundings. Does this make any sense to anyone out there? Do you sometimes end up arguing with someone you love because of a subject that doesn’t even concern you? Yet it’s so emotional you quarrel with the person you’re discussing it with? Doesn’t even make sense does it? However, I’m on it and making a change in my life. One of many changes towards a more stable me… Thanks and have a great week. I’ll be back soon.