Most of us have times when we feel down and out and I found it refreshing that Simon Cowell acknowledged he suffered from depression from time to time and had also lost everything financially at age 30, had to move in with his parents and started over.  It was inspirational that he didn’t give up and became more successful then he could imagine coming from such a low point in his life didn’t mean he couldn’t make it all over again, because he did and I was empowered by his words, as it means any of us can hit bottom and come back when we try and don’t give up.  Oprah on the other had challenged Simon when he mentioned he felt lucky as she thinks luck is non existent that it’s all about you and being prepared when the opportunity presents itself, therefore I wondered if you agree and think there is no such thing as luck, because after I write this short post, (because of guilt) I feel badly that I haven’t written and our site is still up, I’m heading out to purchase a lottery ticket since I feel lucky today, how about you.

And if you had a chance to see Oprah today, how did you feel about her interview with Simon I thought he was amazing and I even liked him, as he seemed so average and not at all as arrogant as we think while we watched him during his talent show.  I came home at four o’clock today as I have an awful cold and it was one of those rare occasions I get to see Oprah in action, she’s quite a lady, if I had a wish it would be to talk with her a few moments there is so much going on in her head thus imagine what I could learn from her even though I’m older and supposedly wiser (I don’t think so) big chance so I’ll forget that thus,  I’m off to the store for that ticket and I hope your all doing well.  I’ll still be visiting all my blogging friends as I learn so much from all of you, we all do blogging is amazing.

Every time I see the commercial for the New York State Lottery “a dollar and a dream” for just a few moments I fantasize what I’d do if I won, understanding in my heart, working doesn’t guarantee happiness, having money doesn’t guarantee happiness, in fact I’m not sure what does thus, could you put it in a sentence for me as to what it would take to be happy at least in your world?   Because I began reading a book given to me by my friend Beverly in July of 08 just after I finished six months of chemo and it made me a little crazy in my thoughts the book is   “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay and I’ve read only 40 pages and dam….I think I have some healing to do how about you?   Do most of us have past lives or things we wish never happened or we could change do you approve of who you are or is it time to get it all out on the table so your able to go forward with a healthy mind, I always thought I was there, that I accepted myself even liked who I am, although today I’m not sure, so I wonder would you consider sharing your comments and once again, getting me past this uncertain time in my brain, or should I just stop reading the book?

I was picking up my grandson Noah for an overnight today, I’d had a really busy week (that’s why no posts) however, I knew if I got Noah I’d have a wonderful grandma, grandson night so he was worth the effort.  We met at a store as my daughter lives almost an hour away and we try to meet somewhere in the middle to give us each a little edge on the driving.  I gave her a kiss and she stared a little at me and I said what’s wrong, which was my first mistake as I remember a few years ago she explained that I needed to change my eyebrows as they looked like they were ready to fly away.  To tell the truth I wasn’t mad I like it that Sherry and I are able to tell each other the reality about what we think and then move on, so that’s the way it’s been for us forever thus when she pointed out what seemed to be a flaw in how I applied eyebrow pencil to my eyes and I did some research (asked others in my family) and friends and they all sheepishly agreed and no one was ever able to be straight forward and tell me the truth, that is except my brother who a few years ago also told me I wore too much purple eye shadow on my eyes.  Please don’t think I have a weird family because if you think that, you’re right. We always say what’s on our minds and no one ever cares because we like knowing where we stand and in the end we’re satisfied with the results, truth and confidence, as no matters what we think, we accept and make the changes when necessary, if we disagree it’s alright too and then we still respect the others thoughts.

And now the nose hairs, so when Sherry saw me and starred it’s because she noticed I had them and politely thought I should know and suggested I purchase a personal nose clipper and start cutting any hairs which grew where they shouldn’t be.  So the next time I do a video you know the drill, I’ll make sure there are no flying eyebrows or nose hairs I should be concerned with.  And if you think you need to ask someone you can trust, about your nose hairs just do it….

Have a great weekend, and wishing you better weather then Western New York, as it’s going to be cold and rainy, darn I hate that, where is the Sun, I always feel so much better when the sun shines therefore hoping your weekend is blessed and filled with joy.

Poor Sandra Bullock, can we ever believe anyone when they say I love you?

Alright maybe today isn’t the day I should write this post, as I’m irritated with people in general and then it diminishes my good judgment so that I don’t say what an idiot Jesse is and I hope he has diarrhea for the rest of his life, now that wasn’t so nice however, I must say it felt good to wish Jesse James what he deserves the creep.  See what I mean I can’t think of anything good about a jerk who just can’t seem to keep it in his pants, OK there I go again spouting negative thoughts about that despicable person who insisted on being married to a lovely lady breaking her heart, being so arrogant he was sure he wouldn’t    be caught and see all this gossip become a free for all to the general public, and Sandra would have to endure the shame as though she’d done something wrong before she will heal and eventually move on.

Thus, is it men or women who we blame, after all it takes two to tangle and this guy wasn’t sleeping by himself was he, and those dumb women who think it’s a score to catch someone’s husband, I wish them what they deserve and when they finally land a husband should I hope they have the same destiny in their lives.  No I can’t say that however, I do wonder what we can do to teach our children, lying and cheating is not right and we have to understand values and having an affair is wrong and no matter what any of us have done with our lives in the past, we need a cleansing and end to this kind of behavior and I hope it happens soon. After seeing what Tiger was doing and now Jesse there appears to be no end in sight, and how in the hell do we even have a chance with marriage when so many of our peers who have such low self esteem and values that whatever feels good to them in the moment is what they do.

Therefore, my deepest sympathy to Sandra as it will be long time before all this scandal subsides and I’m sure a lot of bimbo’s will take this opportunity for their 10 minutes of fame, and we’ll have to pray she is a strong lady who gets through this without thinking all of us are like her partner and those heartless women, because it’s not alright to sleep with someone else’s spouse.  Tell me what we can say to Sandra as bloggers (guys and girls) who realize all these sexual encounters are hurting the future of good marriages, or do you think being monogamous is over, a thing of the past, God I hope not.

After reading about the settlement that Oprah was able to work out with her former employee I wondered how she ever desires to enter the public arena again, and I don’t mean because she should be embarrassed, I wonder why she doesn’t hate everyone as it seems someone always wants to take a piece of her no matter what she does. Was it always this way some reporter or journalist  looking for a picture, or able to verify a rumor, in order to claim their way to fame breaking the heart of the person they are writing about, with no thought of their privacy even when it’s a personal issue and should never become public. Shouldn’t there any limitations to what we need to know about the rich and famous and were there unwritten areas that we considered so personal, no reporter or journalist went there just because of common courtesy.

Seems to me as though we’ve reached new lows with how far they go to make a quick buck on celebrities and I’ve decided you couldn’t pay me to be famous because in a word I’d tell them to F-off and get out of my life, and we know that would go over like a lead balloon. Therefore I better not ever get well-known because they wouldn’t like my qualities under paparazzi, and God bless Oprah who always seems to try to do good for the human race, and instead ends up on the short end, with people looking for her flaws or mistakes instead of focusing on all the wonderful things she’s given and done for those who have less. Therefore, blessings to Oprah Winfry and if I had her life, I’d never be in the public eye again; we just aren’t worth it and in the finish we usually hurt her in some way oblivious to what we’ve done. Hence, stay innocuous and enjoy your private life without some idiot hiding in a tree to take your picture in some compromising or personal situation so they can become famous or make a fast buck, destroying you life, it’s discouraging and yet we know the skies the limit and if your prominent your it, be ready for the worst because it sells everything and that’s the ultimate goal today to be on top number one at any price.

So here’s to Oprah, and I hope she’s alright as she’s an amazing women who has helped and influenced many, and continues to be a role model for us,  and there aren’t many of those around today thus, I pray she has peace and serenity in her life, as she deserves it.

Finally I watched a television show with my grandson Noah this morning and it had some substance, they were teaching our children good habits, instead of other programs which I’ve watched that (in my opinion) instruct them how to be disrespectful children with no fear of right or wrong.

I recall watching a Discovery program which challenged adults to conserve energy and then had a catchy phrase which said you can do 3% less and I couldn’t tell you why however, it stuck in my brain (my 63 year old head) and I’m turning off televisions and lights when I leave the room, unplugging chargers when not in use, electrical appliances, and being very conscientious about being wasteful and feeling really good about it as well. I want to be part of the solution and less of the problem as we here in the United States are known throughout the world for wasting much of our natural resources’ so when Noah was interested in the agent Oso television program I was thrilled, and when he started telling me I should:

Turn off lights when no one was in the room, remembering to turn off the water when your brushing your teeth, check all your faucets to make sure none were dripping, I knew there was hope for our younger generation, plus if we teach them good sense habits now, they will become a part of their normal lifestyle helping all of us live a better life, preserving the resources we have left.

Therefore, congratulations to Disney for creating a program which will help our children acknowledge we have a ways to go in order to have a positive affect on our natural resources, adding to the preservation of our earth’s perpetuity for the next generation. I recall being in Europe a few years ago and during a general conversation someone making reference to Americans being wasteful with our energy and I must admit I couldn’t disagree, as I knew it had not been high on my priority list well now it is and perhaps I’ve gotten you to think about this as well so excuse me while I check my faucets and lights to make sure there all turned off.

I received this in an email and had to pass it along:

To realize
The value of a sister/brother
Ask someone
Who doesn’t have one.

To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
Divorced couple.

To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.

To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.

To realize The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.

To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother
Who has given birth to
A premature baby….

To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize
The value of one-second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident.

Time waits for no one.

Treasure every moment you have.

You will treasure it even more when
You can share it with someone special.

To realize the value of a friend or family member:

LOSE ONE.

Women and their friends

Watching the movie The Women with Meg Ryan was a pleasure as the innocence in the part that Meg Ryan played was refreshing as she encountered her husband wanting a divorce while she thought they had a wonderful marriage. There was friendship, betrayal and in the end forgiveness, and the everlasting alliance that will often have to endure the storms in order to survive the old saying “friends for life”. A new expression “keep it in the vault” became a future phrase for me as I often share information or thoughts with my friends that I expect will never be shared no matter what the agony they experience, like a crypt, the secret is safe therefore now I use the adage with my friends and keep in mind they often last longer then marriages with the statistics boosting high divorce rates among us.

I’m pleased to boast I have a few of those friendships and through it there have been times where my friends and I decided we’d not talk for awhile as each of our personalities began to wear down the strong bonds we’d shared for many years, which often happens to friendships and we’d give each other space in order to continue the relationship we loved for so many years when things quiet down. And inevitably it does calm down and we move forward and realize we made it through another hurdle and our camaraderie continues stronger, and better then before with each of us learning more about life and ourselves. Thus, seeing the movie which focuses more on friends then marriage I watched it all and decided I’d see it again, as I realized there was a great deal of reality in this fun loving, movie about women and their lives, so see it on HBO or rent it on a pay per view, it’s worth the time and you’ll learn something in the process about the importance of Women and their need for friendship. And if it seems like I’m brushing over marriage and divorce for this post I am, although I’ll be back with my thoughts on exoneration in a marriage when there is adultery, and how I suggest it should be handled I hope you can’t wait to hear what I’m thinking.

Women and Intimacy with their partners

Describing intimacy versus sex is a sensitive subject for men and women not because anyone’s embarrassed, women understand it and secretly regret they don’t have it in their marriage or relationship, men think it’s sex want it all the time, and fail to realize both are a necessary in order to satisfy their partners. Therefore, to help both sexes recognize the difference between getting laid and having an intimate encounter made me decide to share some thoughts I had regarding this subject.

Intimacy is having a close relationship, sharing quiet times getting to know each other and what goes on in your head by asking questions and listening to what each has to say, remembering the conversations for another time and asking her how things are did she have any other thoughts from the last occasion you spoke, thus it’s almost like homework and a future test, because if you don’t listen and commit those words to your memory, forget it because it won’t work. Plus can it be so terrible to know what your partner is thinking and might be dreaming about, you could be amazed at what’s going on in her mind and how it can benefit you and your family in the future. While you’re together make sure it remains non sexual, touching and caressing is good, rubbing her feet, once again, being certain you don’t take it any further then a kiss on the head as you tell her you love her and suggest you should do this more often, because you really enjoyed just being together for special time and learning more each others needs.

Thank You Robin for this award for this post!

In reality women know men think about sex a lot, and that we reflect about intimacy and long for our partners to want to understand who we are in a non sexual way often dreaming that we could share our deepest thoughts and desires with our partners wondering how to make it happen, embarrassed it could seem like we’re weak and inadequate. Therefore when a woman senses her partner wants to know more about her, another level is achieved, which can enhance the sex which will take place at another time as the bond has strengthened and the intimacy shared in the past will drive the two closer during the sexual encounter.

Hence, if you want to improve and enhance the sex in your life, which we know can make or break a relationship, do some research on intimacy and follow through with your version of getting to know your partner without any expectations other then really learning more about the person you live with, and later, you decide if I’m not right and you don’t improve your sexual experiences and relationship, because you learned to share more of what the other needs; and remember it will be important to continue maintaining the intimacy times, which you might consider similar to the oil in the engine of your car keeping things moving smoothly, and the sex the gasoline to make it run, at the same time accomplishing victory with your partner while keeping those fires burring, really what harm can come from this or did I miss something, let me know what you think or even how it goes as you have that heart to heart with someone you love.

I watch television with a heavy heart as the news is covering what might be the discovery of the body of the young girl who went missing while innocently jogging near her home in San Diego. I was heartsick this morning when I watched her devastated parents and my heart aches for them. Losing a child to illness or an accident is unthinkable, the pain is unimaginable. Losing a child to violence in this way is beyond comprehension. I feel puzzled, sad and downright angry and outraged because the suspect is a registered sex offender who has a history of raping a child in this very neighborhood. Why is this person even allowed to exist free in our neighborhoods EVER? How do we even begin to understand this?? What is our system good for if we cannot keep our young people safe?? How can we have KNOWN sex offenders living in neighborhoods unchecked as in this case where there were other mysterious attacks and missing young girls right in this same area? Today, I also read about the young girl who was killed after living in an abusive household and being checked by Social Services. How do we even begin to understand how this can happen? This is an outrage that these kinds of atrocities occur in our country while our system does nothing to protect our most vulnerable. Where does it end and what can we do about it? How do you feel about this, I look forward to hearing your thoughts.