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True Happiness

admin — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 03:37:51 +0000

What do you think you need in order to be happy?

What will make you happy in your life the million dollar question are you happy now is it a frame of mind something you think about or is it how you live and where? Too many questions and not enough answers if you ask me because in a week I can be traumatized, miserable, or elated with my life it all depends on how I’m dealing with the everyday details of living. Therefore the best we can hope for are some good times during our otherwise busy years and if that’s the case making the best of those periods is something you really have to focus on thus while struggling to meet all your obligations and commitments it’s important to make sure you do some things just for you. I find myself doing a few things each day which got me wondering what you might need to be happier and here are some of my tips and thoughts.

Making the best out of your weeks:

Purchase a small tablet which you can carry around with you I have the Mead memo pad which is tiny enough for your purse or pocket.

Every time you think of something you’d like to do write it down in the memo book especially if it’s a restaurant or place to go often when you have the chance to do something you forgot where you wanted to visit therefore you check your book and there it is the answer this works.

Take time every day to consider what makes you laugh or smile perhaps it’s a walk somewhere where you can enjoy Mother Nature a stroll in the shopping mall or movie going to a theatre alone can be fun you get to pick exactly what you want with no consideration for anyone but guess who……U.

Learn how to relax and let go of the problems and things you can’t change for the moment allowing you to be free of stress and recharge clear you mind for that short period and pretend the problem been solved. There’ll be plenty of time to refocus after your recharge maybe you even came up with a solution after refreshing you mind.

Visit a friend and bring something to them coffee candy flowers and watch them light up and guess what it’ll do the same for you.

Try thinking out side the normal day pick one small thing to do just for you and don’t let anything stop you from doing it the difference in your attitude and the new energy will surprise you giving you a different and better outlook on life

Start today by making your list and carry it around with you the worst that’ll happen to that book is you’ll use it as a to do list and that’ll work as well. Hence dare to be happy and live more life it’ll make you nicer to be around it’s the only chance you’ll get and remember there are no reruns only memories with those we leave behind isn’t Michael Jackson the best example of this being true.

A Surprise In My Backyard

admin — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 01:39:21 +0000

I couldn’t believe my eyes as I looked out my back porch (attached to my living room) and watched this dear so close I could hear him breathing. I was able to snap these photos and thought you’d enjoy the beauty of mother nature.

Memories

admin — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

I found a book my husband had given to me entitled Grandma Do You Remember When by Jim Daly and by looking through the pages I started thinking of my grandmother and how wonderful my times were with her. She was from Poland could not speak English and yet our communication was wonderful and every time I was able to go with my mom to her house I did. I remember like it was yesterday the beautiful plants and doilies in her living and dining room and in the small front door entryway she kept her old sewing machine it was one of the old pedal machines and my gram made skirts and aprons which I loved and only wish I had kept in her memory. Long ago we didn’t think about saving things from the past and when I think about gram how I wish I had one thing from her to recall the smells and treasures of her life. Therefore I’m suggesting moms and grams get together with their children and grandchildren and make a list of items they want their families to have when gram is no longer around. It’s a grim thought of course however if there is more then one sibling it will be easier if each child knows what gram wanted them to have as a memory of their time together.

My daughter and my grandchildren always tell me what they love in our home and Joe and I have decided to make a list and keep it with our important papers. Its fun knowing what each child wants as they all seem to have different ideas and if we had to guess I suspect we’d never come close to some of the things they’ve asked for. In addition to your possessions I suggest you begin a book of answers to questions relating to your grandparents history because once your family is gone there is no way you can recapture the past unless it’s already been written somewhere. Yes you can construct a family tree however there are personal things which are nice to know and no one thinks about until it’s too late. Therefore here are some questions you might want to consider to make you grandparents book (similar to a baby book) only grandparents history for your children and once the new site is up (next week) one of our first contest will be to submit an older picture of a grandparent along with a memory you’d like to share with us.

So here go some questions to consider:

Grandma’s birthday

Where was she born?

How did mom and dad pick her name did it have a meaning or story behind it?

Who was president when she was born (I don’t know for me I have to check) dah..

Give a brief summary of what was going on when gram was born.

On a personal note:

What was your grams favorite food?

What did she like to do most?

Who was her favorite grandchild (just kidding)

What did do for a living?

Did she travel and if so what was her favorite place to visit?

You get the idea so start thinking and purchase that book we’ll have one for sale soon with some of the photo’s you submit because we know life is fleeting and these moments are temporary and in the end all we have is our memories of time we’ve spent with those we love. My dear friend David who has become part of this site was taken back when I called him tonight and asked to find me a photo for this post because as we started talking he told me this article reminded him of his mom who died in 2006 so I dedicate this post to Lynda Harris in her memory because un-be-known to me she had done many of the things I just wrote about and her children (all 7 of them) are happy she thought about what they might want if she wasn’t here. So please give this some thought you won’t regret it.

In Memory

Lynda Harris

1938 – 2006

Happy Fathers Day Dads

admin — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Father Day 101

Today was Fathers Day and hopefully any child who could called visited or sent a card to dad to tell them how much they love them or what they meant in their lives. There aren’t many holidays that are important and this day is one to set aside and remember because our dads are the staple of our lives. They set our values and habits along with mom they work as a team and can leave you with great memories and times you’ll relive as you grow up and become a parent and hopefully share with your children continuing the great traditions your family knew and loved. My parents have passed and I often wish I’d taken more time to say the loving things we often are too busy to make time for along with sending the cards that Hallmark makes that can say the feelings you have although you can’t put it into words, thus don’t let another year go by without acknowledging dad as he deserves this day and if you missed it, call him tomorrow and say something wonderful tell him you love him and you spent the day remembering your times together and are so glad he’s your day. Don’t get old like me where it’s too late to say the things you felt and thought you’d do another time, as our lives are short-lived 99 years is a wish and a dream and swift so too every father who reads this post blessings and joy to you and your families on this Fathers Day and to any child who didn’t make the call or visit yet I hope you will it’ll make you feel great and there are probably no words in the heart and mind of the dad you told I love you too so please just do it.

Comming Soon……….

admin — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Our New Site

We are giving you a sneak peek of our new front page…this is exciting as we’ve been working on the changes for months and in addition to the new look (my icon included) designed by Liz and it really looks like me now with my short hair and filled with grey silver and old age (oh well).

We’ll be starting our contests adding new subjects and looking for guest poster’s to spice up opinions. We hope you like what you see and that this new format is only the beginning of building traffic and having fun while sharing experiences and thoughts because as you know life is stranger then fiction and the more I read with other bloggers and their stories the more I’m convinced we need each other as there is a lot to learn together.

Roasted Red Potato’s

admin — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Roasted Red Potato’s

This is a great side dish.

A bag of red potato’s

One onion (purple)

One Pepper (green)

2 cloves garlic minced

One package of onion soup mix

Olive oil

Fresh basil

Cut up potato’s with skins on in chunks, cut up onion and pepper the same way. Add the garlic and fresh basil.

Sprinkle the onion soup mix over the casserole and drizzle olive oil on top.

Cover and bake at 425 for 45 minutes.

The last 10 minutes take the cover off the brown up a bit.

Parents teach values to our kids

admin — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Kids want and want it now…

When I hear children cry because they want mom or dad to buy them something in the store and when the parent says no they have a tantrum and of course then you feel like you’ve done something wrong and the dance begins and most of the time the child wins. I’m not criticizing because they give in I’m wondering if they might consider what to say before they enter the store and if the rules are broken leave with the child screaming or ranting so you are establishing consequences and setting a good example assuring them next time with good behavior things will be different. However in order to accomplish this you need support from both parents or if you’re parenting alone friends or family to run this by as to what you do when your child acts up while in any kind of store where they may want something now and you say no. There is nothing worse then a single parent who already suffers from guilt especially if they are a working parent worrying they are not giving enough of what their children need because they’re gone so much from their lives already and now all they want is a simple toy and you say no making you feel like a jerk (Sound familiar).

Guilt will drive you crazy if you’re not careful I know because my daughter is unsure if she is a good mother sometimes when she disciplines her kids and we constantly talk about what she’s done and if it makes sense. Each family has their own set of values however most of them mean the same thing so here are a few of my thoughts.

If you’re going out to shop and you need to take your children take time to speak with them before you leave and let them know if this trip is for them or errands and obligations. Recently I heard my daughter ask Noah if he minded her having to stop at a few places after school. Noah of course said no I don’t want to do that and as much as I love him I asked my daughter if I might comment she said yes and I said number one you are picking him up so he doesn’t have to ride the bus second this is not one of his choices it’s yours and I’d suggest you not let him think he’s got a vote in what you need to accomplish this is a dangerous pattern parents can establish without realizing the consequences and I hope she got it and never asks permissions for anything from any of her kids as she is the parent and not the one learning how to be successful in life remember you’re the teacher in your child’s world your examples have a profound impact on their futures.

When they are preparing to leave with you give them simple guidelines as to what to expect on the journey that they will be going into stores it’s not a trip for them however pack a few toys and even snacks so you can make them as comfortable as possible while they are tagging along because that’s what parents have to do to get things done. No further conversation or discussion and then you do it telling them when they will be able to give opinions and that this is not one of those times.

Take time to let them know if it trip is an opportunity to purchase anything for themselves or when they will be allowed to choose a toy and if it’s not now when it will be their turn and don’t allow begging or manipulating rants or raves as you’ll weaken and you just lost all the ground you gained by continuing these conversations your children have to learn when to stop and listen and accept what you tell them without further comments to you.

I’ll finish by saying I’m among the greatest grandma’s in the world and I’d give everything to my daughter and her family however it’s always been with rules and consequences. I usually had a string attached however menial for what I gave or did for them they know me for my rules and lectures and I’m sure often they didn’t even like me however they always loved me and knew it was for their best interest even if at the moment they didn’t agree. Today as the kids are much older they tease me for what I represent because they know I gave and always was there and yet there was also the element of them knowing if I didn’t agree or like what they were doing there’d be hell to pay. To this day if I’m coming to visit they run around making sure the house is in order praying I don’t inspect their rooms knowing my feelings life is not free and the only way our kids will learn is from us and it starts with little things pride in their homes, keeping things in order, fulfilling obligations they make, respect of elders and parents working hard moving forward with their very best efforts even when it’s not easy. To this day they tease me as I would say if this old lady can do it so can you and so they did there few times my children and grandchildren didn’t do exactly as I’d hoped while they were in my company and I’d like to believe between my daughter and her husband we’ve been a good influence in their lives and how they’ll end up in the future is part of our influence we’re far from perfect but they are ours and we did our best and here’s hoping you will too.

A new book for help on the inner self

admin — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

The difference between the books; The Compass and The Secret

I’m all for self help as I find myself still wondering where I’ve been and where I’m going therefore when I found a really interesting blog Evolving Beings and Evita spoke about the Compass as a must read I clicked on the links did a little research and purchased the book to see if once again I could improve my life.

Well I’m shocked as to how much her blog and the Compass have entertained me in the past 48 hours I feel as though there is a new meaning to the personal self and the difference between The Secret and The Compass is the internal you whereas the other book which I loved taught you how to think in a more positive way reaching out to the law of attraction this book teaches you how to redirect your life and choose a journey to gain focus and peace. Therefore stop over to her blog read her post (I think its one or two down) as she’s written more articles and click on the links and see if it captures your attention. Remember all of us want to feel growth in our lives and this book can give you direction and focus for your mind and soul especially if you’ve recently experienced trauma or hardship via loosing your job money for retirement or your home there is a need to regenerate move forward and find the new you while choosing a direction for accomplishment and success. We know from the book The Secret feeling optimistic is important however knowing what the inner self wants to do with this energy is also required for victory and ultimate harmony as money and material things do not bring happiness do they self do they.

I hope you click over to her site and let me know what you think I’ll be back with my thoughts regarding the book I’ve begun to read her site once again is Evolving Beings

Kids don’t like working today

admin — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

Teaching kids working is for a long time

My daughter has seven children five grandchildren which makes me a mom gram and great grandmother and over the last 22 years it’s been my greatest challenge to give each child a special part of me thus leaving them with cherished grandma memories and principles which will help them later in life which brings me to William my 14 year old grandson who recently began working at a dog kennel two days a week cleaning cages and when he complained he already hated his job I wondered how he’d be able to work a lifetime if this part time job had already become a burden.

He didn’t want to go to the kennels and clean dog poop he preferred just having fun and not getting up when he could sleep in on the weekends and relax however, he knew by the work ethics of his dad and mom no matter how much he longed to stay home and just be a kid he was sure working was what you did and his parents teaching him his work habits will determine his success later in life or so he hoped. Thus I’m sharing views which might be helpful to you when your children are old enough to get a job because their frame of mind will establish how successful they are when they begin working for a living and for most families that can be at an early age therefore consider how these ideas could help you with your children when it’s their time to join the work force.

Help them understand education is important whether college or training for a specific job because working should be something they enjoy and choosing the right field will important and their brand of training or education whether a hairdresser or college professor knowledge will help them be successful in their field.

coaching on how to get a job and keep it by being on time and leaning to be a respectful and polite worker always wanting to do a good job for their employer and his customers so they keep coming back because they provide good friendly service.

Be careful not to make their lives so comfortable they won’t think they need to work if you supplement their income and they have everything they need and want why would they work therefore maintaining a balance of what you give them is important so they realize working is part of life almost forever.

Before they begin working it will be important to teach them certain work principles being on time and dressing appropriately for the type of job they do checking with their boss to see what he expects.

Letting them know it’ll never be easy to give up having fun and being free to work however this is life and so we all do our time and careful planning can make it easier so they don’t have to work as much. Saving and not spending as quickly as they receive money will be a hard pattern to establish as kids today have a lot of places to use money. Therefore the habits you start with them usually carry through their lives so think about the examples you set knowing you behaviors is an example for them later in their lives.

I see so many patterns in my daughter that we’re not only mine but my mom as well furthermore I know I was the strong influence in her time and I often wonder if her life might have been easier it I’d taught her different because everything you do as a parent (Plain and Simple) is a probable prototype in your child’s world so as a parent ask yourself if this is what you want for your child’s future if not reconsider the things you allow your children to see you do and make sure your example is a good one. It’s not going to be easy however in the end both you and your children will be happier because today one of the most important values you can bestow on your kids is being willing and able to work hard and spend the earnings wisely.

Does Daddy Hate me?

admin — Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000

When dads don’t pay attention to their kids

Sadly there is little a mom can do when the father of your child is not interested in giving his children attention. It’s not much different then the old saying you can lead a horse to water however he has to do the drinking himself.

I thought about this last night when one of my grandchildren (Noah) called me from his dad’s phone and he proudly told me: gram I’m with my father tonight he’s been working a lot and I haven’t seen him much so we’re bonding and I wondered did he even know what the word meant he’s only 6 years old. He was so proud that his daddy had taken him out for father and son time and I’m sure my daughter was quietly pleased as children need both their parents which lead me to the ones who don’t care or can’t be bothered and their children miss out on so much further there is nothing a mother can do if a parent isn’t going to fulfill his obligations to his children and feeling guilty doesn’t help.

Therefore if your in one of those one sided relationships the only choice you have is to find a way to supplement the missing part. Often there are grandparents who are willing to spend time with your child or you may have a brother who is available in place of his father. There’s no one who can take the position of either parent however there are things you can do to ease the pain and make life good for your children. I know I’ve said this before and some of you probably say she’s always pushing the church when I remind you that there are great programs on Sundays for children as well as cub and boy scouts where they interact with male counter parts learning camping, fishing, and hunting to name a few things. We know in a perfect world mom and dad and the “Leave it Beaver” home are wonderful however for single parent that’s not always the way it is. So if you are a mother whose children are missing a father in their every day world stop feeling sorry for yourself and think about what you can do to make it up. Feeling guilty will only add to your responsible for the wrongdoing you feel for the kids and that’s crazy you can’t make anyone do anything they don’t want too so move on. Thus join a church or get involved with some groups who have boy things available for your son’s and girl things for dads and daughters. Yes it’s one more duty for you to take charge of however, when you reflect on whom we are as moms and grandmothers facing the ills of the world head on and moving forward with a solution is really who we are and if your first attempt at something doesn’t work try something new until it does.

I speak from my world as some days I wonder does the responsibility of being a parent and grandmother, great grandmother ever stop or change and my conclusion at age 63 in July is never. I sense the responsibilities (if you want them) become larger because I lived more and want to give and share what I missed. Therefore being a parent is never easy nor does it stop so I’ve added it to my bucket list all the way to the top because it’s who I am and I’m guessing it’s many of who you are and all the money in the world and many of the rich and famous treasures don’t compare to the smile of a child or (grown up one) when they say thanks grandma or thanks mom for being there for me. When I observe the famous athletes and stars that often when receiving the highest honors and awards tearfully thanking their moms for being there for them through all of their lives; I’m proud to be one of those moms myself this is the best job I ever had.

So if you’re in one of those relationships where you have to be all things for your children establish how to help them being prepared to discuss the subject at the appropriate time offer assurance that your love is more then they’ll need and together you’ll make it through their lives. When they ask why dad doesn’t want them, carefully choose what you’ll say as it will either help or hurt the already wounded mind of your child therefore seeking the advice of a counselor pastor or priest ahead of time may give you ideas and prepare you for that moment. Secretly you can think the guys a looser jerk or worst however it won’t help to add those feelings to the minds of children already feeling rejected. For that reason being prepared before the conversation is imperative to your family being as normal as possible and the good news (if there is any) there are many single parents your not alone and you can have a well developed child if you take the time to learn what to say to them. Please don’t think this will just go away if you ignore it so I’m wishing you the best as you deal with another family issue that many of us have faced before and dealt with successfully.

Blessings, Dorothy